"I was very scared," my friend told me about her first squirt. "And yet," she added in a whisper, "I thought I was describing myself." When I sat down to study the topic, I asked the subscribers to tell how it happens with them - and I was amazed how many people wrote to me! Familiar, unfamiliar, close friends, ex-girls.

What is sex? It seems that now the most logical answer to this question is: "Sex is all you want to call your sex." It can include a variety of practices, and can engage in a variety of people. We may have different bodies, different identities, different needs and limitations.

It is generally accepted that male sexuality is simpler than female. According to statistics, 95% of heterosexual men regularly have an orgasm - much more often than their partners (65%). At the same time, 28% of men still periodically simulate an orgasm, even during oral sex. It turns out that everything is not so simple. We explain how a male orgasm differs from a female orgasm, what are the reasons for an erection, and why ejaculation does not always speak about pleasure.

“Change from the needle of male approval to a man’s face” - last week the slogan from the Reebok advertising campaign caused a lot of controversy, recriminations and jokes. Due to the fact that the phrase calls for face siting, many have seen aggression in advertising, citing the fact that “sitting on the face” has not been a popular element in jokes about female domination for several years already.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. One-time sexual adventures in the Russian language have not yet come up with their name, they often use the expression one night stand, although they practice unnamed right and left. There are many situations when you do not want to give up sex for one night, and you don’t need it.

They either do not talk about sex at all in Russian families, or speak as abstractly as possible - the parents put the teenager at the dinner table and squeeze out that “you need to be protected”, and the most advanced show what a condom looks like. Hollywood and Pornhub also do not give young people realistic ideas about physical intimacy and its diversity - as a result, many adolescents are sure that all sex life occurs in the interval from the upper classes to the age of 35, and their 40-year-old parents in the bedroom are engaged exclusively in sleep.

Fetishism and BDSM that year do not go out of fashion - mainly in the form of defiant clothing and vague fantasies about special feelings. In fact, BDSM practices can be painful, nasty and humiliating, which excites far from everyone, and sex in them is not at all obligatory. Therefore, those wishing to expand their sexual horizons should become familiar with the basic concepts and independently decide whether it is worth it.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog The three of them are not the most difficult thing for decisive sex researchers, but the question most often rests on organizational issues. Two and then sometimes find themselves at a dead end, wondering what to do for mutual satisfaction, and the "tees" at times increase the number of various options and related difficulties.

The image of God definitely affects our sexuality, says Polish psychologist and author of the book The Role of the Image of God in the Occurrence of an Ecclesiogenic Neurosis, Andrzej Molenda. And for the first time they started talking about it back in the 50s - the German gynecologist Eberhard Shetzing found out that married couples of orthodox Christians often have problems in the sexual sphere: impotence, indifference to sex, and most importantly, guilt for their desires.

"So then you do not need to be protected at all!" - said my gynecologist friend, having learned that she has sex only with women. Unfortunately, there is very little Russian-language information about protection against STIs in female sex and it is not always known even to specialists. If heterosexual partners are often told about safe penetrating sex, and organizations fighting HIV are actively working with homosexual men, then sex between women remains as if on the sidelines.

Not everyone thinks it's appropriate to make sex gadgets cute and reminiscent of real children's toys. However, if we are able to wear pajamas with dachshunds or socks with Bart Simpson at forty, why shouldn't the devices sometimes look fun and light-hearted - they are also often sparingly priced. Even Sanrio once released a massager with Hello, Kitty head!

To finish, I usually lay down on my partner from above and rub the crotch about her thigh. This sexual practice is called “rabbing” and refers to non-invasive types of sex - that is, different sex activities that do not imply vaginal or anal penetration. In general, weasels outside the genitals are called contact non-penetrative sex, and sex by video chatting, sexting, or jerking talk is non-contact sex.

IN THE PUBLISHING HOUSE "ALPINA non-fiction" THE BOOK OF Darya Varlamova and Helen Foer "GOING OUT" Sex: From Libido Neurobiology to Virtual Porn "is a popular science guide at the intersection of biology, cultural studies and sexology. With the permission of the publisher, we publish an excerpt in which the authors discuss how the last half century has changed the approach to the study of sex and the understanding of sex as such.

Text: Tatiana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. Virtually every training center for women sooner or later opens a course on the secrets of "Thai mistresses" (emperor's Chinese concubines, Japanese geishas, ​​antique heteros - underline) who own their vaginas like Tony Stark - with an iron glove: at least he will catch a feather, even if he crumbles a stone.

Sex toys have long ceased to be considered something "strange" and "shameful" - today it is a familiar part of life. But to their modern look, they have come a long way - they exist not for the first millennium. We understand how sex toys appeared and what important milestones were in their history. alexandra savina From Greece to Japan If you believe the excavations, sex toys existed about always: on account of archaeologists found a lot of phalluses created in different periods - the oldest appeared about 28 thousand years before our era.

Erection ring is one of the most popular devices in sex shops, but there are so many of them that it is easy to get confused and not buy at all what you need. We tell you how not to overshoot and choose the option that is right for you, and at the same time we recommend 12 erection rings - for both beginners and experienced users.

When flights to Mars become something like a cruise, sex in space will turn into standard entertainment. But so far all that we see in the movie is fantasies and special effects far from life, based on the idea that mankind has learned how to create space stations with artificial gravity. While sex in space remains a big question - and we tried to figure out why.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. Erotic lingerie is often recommended to revive relationships that have lost their heat. It is assumed that if you wear something red, transparent and piquant, the woman immediately feels seductive, and the man will be kindled with passion, and everything will be fine.

TEXT: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. The gags have long been widely used in sex games, but while some lovingly silence their partners, others only dream about it - the inability to talk excites and allows you to focus on pleasure. However, the choice is suitable specifically for you or your partner - not obvious thing.

For hundreds of years, a condom has been carrying the banner of the most affordable and universal contraceptive, but not everyone knows how to use it and choose the most suitable of all modern ones. In honor of World Condom Day (passed yesterday) and Valentine's Day (today), we have prepared useful instructions - with rules whose knowledge will save you from disappointments and unpleasant surprises.