Sit on the face: Who and how practicing facessing
"Shift from male-approved needle to male face" - Last week, the slogan from the advertising campaign Reebok caused a lot of controversy, recriminations and jokes. Due to the fact that the phrase calls for face siting, many have seen aggression in advertising, citing the fact that “sitting on the face” has not been a popular element in jokes about female domination for several years already. We tell what this sexual practice is about, how it is related to female domination, and why any mention of faceting causes such a stir.
Julia Dudkina
Face protection
In December 2014, dozens of people took to the streets in front of the British Parliament. They had blankets and gymnastic mats with them. Crashed into pairs, the demonstrators were distributed across the lawn: some lay back on the ground, others settled on top so that they were directly above their heads. Surrounded by photographers, these people chanted: "What do we want? Facesitting! When do we want it? Now!" Having finished with slogans, they sang the song "Sit on my face and say that you love me" - the hit of 1980, written by the comic group "Monty Python". So the first and, most likely, the only demonstration in support of face siting in history was held.
Shortly before the British government passed a law restricting the rules for the production and distribution of pornography. Many categories were banned, in particular, all related to violence, humiliation and suffocation. Facesitting is also on this list - a sexual practice in which one partner - usually a woman - sits on the face of another. The authorities recognized this practice as “humiliating” and “life-threatening”, therefore they demanded that the porn industry be limited to it along with fisting and strangulation (suffocation).
The action in defense of face siting was organized by sex worker Charlotte Rose. She explained that many practices that are shown in porn are truly sexist and contain elements of violence. In this case, in her opinion, it was primarily about censorship: the government itself decided what kind of pornography to deprive people without asking them about it. The participants were confident that in the fight against dangerous practices and violence, the British government at the same time opposes women. After all, face siting is a practice where it is their pleasure that comes first.
Where faceting came from
Some media claim that face siting is not just a sexual practice, but also a long tradition. The tabloids report that the ancient Egyptians still depicted couples sitting on each other’s faces in their drawings. In the book "Mrs. Pussy: The Adventures of a Submissive in the World of Themdom", Joyce Snyder writes that women from the higher strata of society practiced face-throwing with servants and slaves in different cultures. This allowed them to have fun, but at the same time officially remain faithful to her husband and avoid unwanted pregnancies.
Many believe that sitting on the face is a pose for cunnilingus. In fact, everything is much more complicated. Facesitting is a practice in which the "upper" partner is squatting or kneeling over the face of the "lower" so that he clings to him with the vulva or anus. However, oral sex is not a must. There may be no sexual contact between the participants.
Today face siting is considered primarily a practice from femdom, that is, a form of relationship where a woman dominates a man; Other combinations of genders also occur, but this option is the most frequent. "In the practice of faceting, Mrs. often deprives a partner of breathing," explains Vika, Dominatrix and the administrator of the online community dedicated to the theme. "At the same time faceting can be practiced even in clothes." According to her, the essence of faceting is in the dominance of women and the helplessness of the submissive. As Dominatrix tells Anna, face siting is not the most popular practice in femdom today. Firstly, many of its participants "against the slave touching the body of the lady." Secondly, not everyone is able to control the process, and negligence during faceting can lead to oxygen starvation of the submissive.
Facesitting does not have to be part of a BDSM session and imply dominance
“I personally like this practice,” says Anna. “But when the slave is fixed. In this case, the psychological aspect is added: the slave is helpless and can suffocate. At the same time, I don’t have to be naked - I often do it in jeans or pantyhose. practice, I like control over a slave and his senses. I control his breathing, smell, sight. To make emotions and reactions even more aggravated, I usually use ropes or shackles. I can also use a gag and leather clothes. more attentively counter dispel the situation because the risk of suffocation increases. "
At the same time, professional dominatrix Vey Vesper believes that, although the practice came from the femdom, where everything is based on domination, it cannot be called demeaning. “A woman sits on a man’s face for her own pleasure, just as in a maildomain, a man puts a woman on her knees when she wants her to give him a blowjob,” Vesper says. “At the same time, this practice is an encouragement for a man. Dominatrix is a mistress. It allows the “lower” to make her pleasant, her lips fall to the source of the greatest pleasure in his life. Like the forbidden fruit to which she allows it. "
However, face siting does not have to be part of a BDSM session and imply dominance. "A more" calmer "faceting option is oral sex in a woman's position from above," said Good Vibrations sexologist Carol Quinn. "This practice is suitable for women who like to move themselves during cunnilingus." And although in femdom face assemblies most often practice heteronormative couples, in fact it is perfect for anyone.
If you consider facesitting not as an act of domination, but as a usual pose for oral sex, then there is nothing more humiliating about this, says Wei Vesper. She is sure: the fact that recently face-singing has become an object for jokes and a part of pop culture, speaks of public acceptance of the phenomenon. “Previously, only male domination was a part of mass culture,” Vesper explains. “Maybe now the situation will change. If phenomena from femdom are discussed, they joke, then their normalization occurs.”
Why face scaring scares people
In a society where male domination is still perceived as the norm, it is not surprising that even a hint of female domination looks to many as nonsense or an insult. However, there are other reasons.
Firstly, face siting is often used as a pose for oral sex, which for a long time has not been approved by various religious institutions. There are no clear prohibitions, as a rule - for example, in the Bible, not a word is written specifically about oral sex. But in Orthodoxy and Catholicism since ancient times, sex is considered an occupation that is necessary for the continuation of the race. So all types of sex that can not lead to childbirth, appear to be undesirable. In addition, in many religions there is a special relationship to the female genital as such. For example, the Babylonian Talmud says: "Children are born lame because their parents" turn the table ", dumb, because they kiss" this place ", deaf because they talk during intercourse, blind if they look at this place “". That is not only cunnilingus is undesirable - you should not even look at the vagina. And while modern rabbis often have nothing against oral sex, some hold conservative views.
In addition, “thieves” culture is very popular in Russian society - prison slang and life according to “concepts” - and in prisons cunnilingus is considered a shameful practice. “Suffice it to say that you have kissed a woman below the navel, and your place is under the lanyard,” asserts prisoner life writer Vitaly Lozovsky.
In general, face siting requires much more courage than, for example, the standard “missionary” posture - it assumes that a partner or partner will see a person from below
But, quite possibly, face siting causes more fear in people than outrage. In 2016, data analyst Michael Castlman researched Internet requests related to sex, and found out what topics cause the most concern to men and women. It turned out that both of them are most worried about their genitals. If men were primarily worried about the size and shape of their penises, then women were most worried about the smell. The fact is that the flavor of vaginal discharge may vary due to various factors. Sometimes it may indicate health problems, but in general, its variations and intensity depend primarily on the natural characteristics of the organism. Still, millions of women fear that their vulva might smell like fish, vinegar, or ammonia.
In general, face siting requires much more courage than, for example, the standard “missionary” posture - it assumes that a partner or a patner will see a person from below, and this view is considered “unsuccessful” by many. For a woman who has difficulty accepting her body and body, this practice can turn into more complex. Especially if a woman lives in a society that is prone to bodybuilding.
So, Amanda Scriver, a Canadian writer, admits that for a long time she didn’t know how to approach faceting because she considered herself "fat." “Once, when I was just starting to have sex at all, I didn’t even allow people to touch my stomach,” Scriver writes. “The thought of hugging someone’s head with hips and sitting on top seemed not at all suitable for I looked in the mirror at my naked body and asked myself: am I too fat to try this practice? Did I crush my partner? It took me a long time to realize that people of any size can enjoy different kinds of sex. "
Having coped with the fears, Skriver eventually decided to face-fitting and admitted in her column that it was thanks to this practice that she experienced one of the strongest orgasms in her life.
How to practice faceting
Each particular couple decides for itself which type of faceting to choose: only in the form of sexual practice, with elements of domination or as a practice of domination in its pure form, without oral sex. If you choose sex, then it can be both cunnilingus and anilingus. Also faceting is good because the one who is on top can make movements and achieve pleasure. In general, as in any other form of sex, there are no clear rules - the partners decide for themselves what they want to do and why.
It is important, however, to comply with safety regulations. To the one who is on top, it is better to carry the weight on your feet, and not to relax them while sitting with your partner on the face - so you can accidentally strangle him. For starters, it is better to try faceting without binding and closely monitor the air access of the person who is below. A stop word in this situation may not work - perhaps the partner will not be able to pronounce it or you will not hear. Therefore, you can come up with a special gesture or tie a bell to your partner on the wrist, which will ring if the situation becomes dangerous. Sex Enlightenment Tatyana Nikonova also advises to soften hair on intimate places and on the face of the person who is below, and apply hair conditioner on the beard and on the vegetation in the groin. By the way, before face-painting in any case it is better to take a shower - hair in intimate places collect all the secretions, so it will not be superfluous to clean them first.
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