Olga Lukinskaya In terms of sex, the concept of the norm is very broad - and what some consider to be common practice may be unacceptable for others. However, there are a number of important principles, such as safety and active consent, that apply to all situations. We have selected ten signs of problems in sexual life, important no matter what gender or relationship you have.

All week we understand what to give for the New Year - and, of course, we could not ignore the sex toys. Carefully study the addressee’s preferences and go to the sex-shop with a wide step - well, or at least click on any site in a measured way. Superhits will reach those who want it, and our task today is to find funny, elegant or simply undervalued items for every taste and budget.

TEXT: Tatyana Nikonova, author of the blog Nikonova.online. And illustration: Dasha Chertanova Weekly news throws up all new reasons for hot discussion. Our permanent author and owner of an excellent sense of humor Tatyana Nikonova argues on how the rethinking of morality will change society and how ideas about sex and relationships evolve.

For a long time, my way to masturbation seemed strange and shameful: since the age of five, I had orgasms, climbing a rope or squeezing gymnastic rings with my hips. Fifteen years after graduating from school and saying goodbye to masturbation sportswear in my life did not exist at all: I was embarrassed to even tell my girls and gynecologists about this method, but I could not find a suitable one from the “right” ones.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. Bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism, combined into one abbreviation, are considered ambiguous sexual practices - not so much because of their reputation of cruel and dangerous hobbies, but because of ethical issues inherent in the very idea of ​​domination and subordination.

Dmitry Kurkin Russian-speaking sex questioning has come a long way from edifying columns in the Soviet magazine Rabotnitsa and the patronizing intonation of the elder sister (with a constant appeal to “you”) in early Russian gloss to sex trainings and public lectures focused not only on heterosexual couples.

We regularly give a platform for the premiere works of beginners and already well-known musicians, directors or artists. For them, this is an opportunity to tell people about themselves, and for readers to be the first to know about new products. Not so long ago we wrote about the new project of the syg.ma platform and the Pure applications "Talk about sex" - a series of materials designed to explore "what we think about sex and how we talk about it."

Sex does not stand still: the assortment of adult stores is becoming more and more high-tech, porn has partially moved into virtual reality, and sex robots are gaining more and more popularity not only in apartments, but also in brothels. At the same time, technology only partly expands our capabilities, far less than, for example, equality.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. Binding is a very common sexual practice and an even more common sexual fantasy, 46% of men and 52% of women dream of it. Moreover, the restriction of mobility is quite harmless, it is enough to allow yourself (or get such permission from a partner) to remain in a passive role and just enjoy what is happening.

Text: Tatiana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog When it comes to masturbation, this is usually a reason for jokes, but they hardly speak about women at all and are often considered to be a sign of sexual incontinence. In fact, masturbation is a healthy, cool and enjoyable way to get to know yourself better and learn a lot of useful things.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog, has no conscious policy on sex education in Russia at either the state or private level: menstruation, ovulation, masturbation, and contraception with adolescents are most often not spoken at school or at home . As a result, we are gaining random knowledge about sex and the body where we have to and we suffer, when faced with reality.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog Petting (not to be confused with peggings) is an important part of sex that many people neglect (cases where passion has engulfed you and there is no time to explain, it doesn't count). This means more or less all the caress of a sexual nature, most often without contact by the genitals.

"In what class did you study - in the sixth or seventh - when the teacher told you how to masturbate? She explained to you how the vagina and the clitoris work and how different orgasms are? No, of course not. Generally, any sex lessons parenting affect only issues of male pleasure.

Sex education in Russia has not yet been included in the school curriculum; children receive fragments of information in biology and life safety classes. In January, Inna Paustovskaya, an expert at the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League, suggested introducing a lesson in “Sexology”. And the Presidium of the Russian Academy of Sciences has created a commission to combat the HIV epidemic and announced that the solution is including in sex education.

Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog. Summer in most of Russia is short and happy, and we try to spend most of the time outdoors. Sex is not an exception, so we offer to understand how city dwellers diversify their intimate leisure, do not disturb anyone and not be killed.

Judging by the debates that flare up around any case involving loss of virginity, be it the sale of the “first night’s right” at an auction or a decree obliging doctors to report non-female schoolchildren to the police, this topic remains, to put it mildly, difficult. Few justifies an incompetent gynecologist who, due to inexperience, injured the patient's hymen; others protect her right to control her body and refrain from sex.

"The principle of consent kills the passion even among pansexuals," The Times columnist Eleanor Mills confidently states, and social networks are torn from jokes and memes about official requests for sex and erection taxes. There is a feeling in the air that now any manifestation of desire will now be punished, if not according to the law, then exactly on the Internet: "And what if the girl I slapped on my bottom in the second year will now remember this?

Our entire culture is built on the idea of ​​a union of a man and a woman - so strong that even LGBT people who are at the forefront of demographic change often unknowingly copy this relationship model. But where did the idea of ​​the desirability of the nuclear family come from, although many within its framework sooner or later become crowded and boring?

For the past couple of years, I’ve been running Sam Jones’s Diary sex blog. She called him to talk about interesting things between the two poles - in honor of the heroines of "Sex and the City" and "Bridget Jones's Diary". In a blog, I answer readers' anonymous questions, publish obscene pictures, retell news on the topic and spend test-drives of sex toys (for example, oils to increase orgasm) or explain why, for example, to approach anal sex.

During sex, not everyone wants penetration - and sometimes you don't even want to undress. In this case, you can do rabbing - non-penetrating practice, which can give strong feelings with minimal energy consumption. In addition, rabbing helps to improve the quality of other types of sex, to get to know your body better and just save time.