How to cope with the feeling of monotony of life?
We all have accumulated a lot of questions to ourselves and the world, with whom there seems to be no time or not to go to a psychologist. But convincing answers are not born when you talk to yourself, or to your friends, or to your parents. We started a new regular section where professional psychotherapist Olga Miloradova will answer pressing questions. By the way, if you have them, send to [email protected].
What to do with the feeling of monotony of life?
All childhood and adolescence we live according to a schedule, hoping that we will grow up, finish studying and here we will have a wonderful world of possibilities. But then it turns out that everything will only get worse, and the routine will be aggravated every year. And here you are already in her throat: breakfast, instagram, to work, from work, child to school, child from school, leave twice a year. The refreshing effect of downshifting (moving to another country, changing partners, work, circle of friends) does not last long and is generally an illusion. It seems that things will only get worse. What to do with it?
Olga Miloradovapsychotherapist
In fact, this question hides under a deeper and more extensive - this is the question of why we live. In Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, the answer to the question "What is the meaning of life and all that?" was - "42". Comic as it may seem, this is the only correct answer.
When a child is just born and growing up, everything makes sense to him, because everything is new, unknown and interesting. He owns the desire for knowledge, for growth. At some point, this process is suspended. The child grew up, nature does not present him amazing miracles on a silver platter. Perhaps he had already acquired a profession a long time ago and, within it, did everything he could. What next? It is here that it turns out that there is simply no official comprehensive meaning. And what then, collapse, end and depression, or Sartre's nausea? Let there be no universal meaning, but everyone has his own. And in different periods of life - different. Sometimes ended one, and the other has not yet formed. And then yes, depression and emptiness. Anyway, any private sense implies growth and development. Just need to look for where to grow. What else can give my profession? Does she please me or did I strive all my life to justify someone’s hopes, for example, of my parents? Do I know how to build relationships or ruins around me and I blame someone else for this all the time? I'm sorry, but you yourself must understand where to go and what to do. But the main thing to move and do. And God forbid you from childbearing in order to gain meaning. First, it’s worth finding meaning, and only then reproducing those with whom we can share what we could and found - without stopping.