Cat cat: Do men evaluate each other
Women spend a lot of time studying other women. This was the main conclusion of a small study conducted by the largest British online swimwear365 store. However, men scan other men with no less curiosity.
After the Swimwear365 survey, the columnists of The Telegraph, the largest British publication, literally quarreled: Christina Odon agreed that she really cares about the appearance of other women; Louis Peacock set out to prove that this is not an exclusively female habit.
Heterosexual men are also looking at other heterosexual men with interest: their appearance, clothes, style of communication and flirting with other women. In the end, giving a preliminary assessment to strangers is a matter of security, we do it intuitively. After all, if men did not compare and did not focus on other men, an advertisement aimed at heterosexual men depicting handsome men in Italian costumes, on white sofas or at the helm of a yacht would not work very much. And how can we not recall the study of the direction of gaze on advertising posters and video images: while women concentrate on the faces of men, men carefully examine both faces, and torsos, and swimming trunks of other men.
Wonderzine asked the men they knew if they really appreciated each other and what they were paying attention to first.
In principle, I do not appreciate the appearance or muscles in the spirit of "oh, he has big hands, which means that there is a baguette in his pants." But I always quote outfits a lot. I like it when the dude is on style: for example, I have a fetish for double-breasted costumes, like Bowie’s from the time of the Serious Moonlight Tour. Not that guys have competitiveness, but Poko (Poko Cox. - Note ed.) we always try to make each other different and somehow rejoice in a friendly way when this happens. At the same time, we do not have aggression on the theme of “oh, damn, we have the same dress” - we even wear the same stuff, but look what everyone combines with them. In general, appearance is a constant object for jokes: for example, that I look like Tsiskaridze, and Poco - like the aging Basque.
Of course, we appreciate each other. Clothes Hairstyle Work. Girl Intelligence. Sense of humor. I envy all sports dudes, but I often reassure myself that I’m more likely to be smarter and funnier than them. Most of all I appreciate his wife's eksov, of course. Especially considering the fact that before me she had a sexy pilot. BUT I AM-THIRD, TAKE THAT. The main difference from women is that if I see a dude who is reacher in the terminology of HIMYM, then I’ll rather show him a thumbs-up than to be indignant that such a girl is lost. And so - the same envy, jealousy and offense.
I scan both guys and girls equally: I guess I have a dress code through which everyone goes. And this may affect the choice of a partner or even a passer-by whom I ask for something. Guys, probably, are subjected to a more rigorous analysis inside me, because I know from my own experience what and how I should be changed in appearance, behavior, and so on. I can even like some men: to be pretty and interesting to me, I can even imitate something of their image, but this is subject to the fact that I am heterosexual and I have no sexual attraction for men. In general, men discuss men no less than girls. We with the guys at work sometimes subject very harsh criticism to someone's appearance, speech, and behavior. I pay attention to the elementary neglect and neglect. And let this person be "not of this world", I, most likely, will not want to contact him.
I always appreciate the sexual attractiveness of everything around - women, men, robots, Disney animals. It is like a reflex. When meeting someone or something new, my first thought is “is this a danger to my life?”, The second is “am I ready to sleep with it?”. The main difference between the sexes in these cases is that sexual fantasies about women can be damn bright and detailed, and for men they are almost always suppressed. On the other hand, my goodness, did you see the son of Clint Eastwood?
The main thing that I and other heteroparties are looking at is a rank comparison. In essence, we are trying to determine who is “cooler” by the position in the human herd. Indicators: growth, addition, partly material things: clothes, accessories, etc. In general, in the monkey communities (to which we belong), both males and females monitor their position in the herd. Actually, for this we wear clothes and other indicators of rank. I would say that the assessment of a place in the hierarchy is more typical for men than for women.
Do not look at other men - a strategic miscalculation. It doesn’t matter if you want to win the attention of a girl or a business partner, there always are some guys who already impose competition. If to win in principle, I usually recall that thoughts that have become words materialize in a most amazing way. So, if a joke in a checkered shirt joking as a joke is called a farmer, and a brother with a broad beard is an Old Believer, then you can confidently play the role of an urban intellectual. Even if the checkered and bearded are the theorists of modern art, and you are shit, the label hung on them at an unconscious level will distort their image long enough in the eyes of the listener, the main thing is to choose a bright, categorizing detail of the exterior. Another motivation to look at the guys present is the enjoyment of their shortcomings. If someone has a disgusting pimple on the nose or hair stuck together, then the five kilos you have gained over the last month are balanced, and you feel a bit more harmonious. You should not worry about potential conflicts: today, in almost any male company, the discussion of how much your breasts are larger than the girl with whom you are dating causes genuine delight.
I am one of those people who tend to meet a person by their clothes, and it does not depend on their gender. Of course, I pay attention to looks to try to draw some conclusions about a person, and this does not always work. It seems to me that I rather notice something similar in another young man. For example: oh, he has the same backpack as mine, the same bike. But I do not compare myself with him. What is it like? "Is his beard cooler than mine?" Rather, I notice that I would like to learn from his appearance. For example: oh, what a cool coat! I want the same! In behavior, I notice whether a person is confident or not, how a person communicates with strangers, for example, with me.
Of course, you appreciate whether you can grind with that guy about football, music, video games or chicks. Also, he should have a proper handshake - not too strong, but not a fish tail. Any extremes in views, overestimated self-esteem, machismo and a desire to measure everything with dickheads are an automatic "no." The most winning combination is a misanthropic resonator with a good sense of humor: there is never too much such a dude, which is important. The cool dude is always your potential competitor, but in the process of rivalry (for a girl, physical or intellectual superiority, whatever), you suddenly realize that the process delivers more than the final result. Fabulously, any bromance looks like ordinary love, just with its semantics (see the movie "I Love You, Dude").