Strap-on, she and he: A pegging guide for beginners
Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog
Pegging (not to be confused with petting)- This is another practice, which has no definition in the Russian language that suits the Roskomnadzor, but at the same time is a surprise - it is very common. Pegging means anal penetration with the help of a dildo with a flat base (strap-on), where the receiving side is male and the outstanding is female. Sometimes pegging is also called any sexual interaction with a similar device, but first, let's look at the basics - especially since many more men and women secretly want to experiment in this area than you think.
First, figure out why you need it.. There are many devices that will give pleasure to both of you - while simultaneously stimulating the crotch of a woman. But the main thing in pegging is a change of roles and a fascinating study of new aspects of one’s own sexuality and relationships with a partner. For purely anatomical reasons, women have little experience with implantation, pegging helps to expand the boundaries of experience. Free bonus - a partner experiences a lot on himself and begins to understand more about penetrating sex. But if you don’t like the idea itself, or don’t want to implement anything with a particular man, feel free to refuse. This is just your personal business, what sexual experience to acquire.
Specify, why does it need a partner. If he is interested in trying something new, the physiological or psychological aspects of pegging are curious, I want to agree to do anything with him, or he already knows what he likes, feel free to start. If the guy really needs same-sex contact, it's better to find a good man for yourself. With you everything will turn out differently, and now you won't surprise anyone with bisexuality.
Discuss partner’s doubts if he hesitates.. Is he worried about orientation issues? Prostate massage has nothing to do with homosexual desires, and not all gays have anal sex, by the way. Specific sexual practices or a set of them and sexual orientation are not identical. So do not be paranoid about “propaganda”: it is impossible to make a man homosexual if he isn’t it - even if it is a bold game with his ass. The partner would like to try, but is afraid that the boys will laugh? So Russia is in the first place in the world on porno requests about anal sex, Google throws 70 thousand results for the search for a straponess, and the Fun Factory alone, according to the company, sells 100 thousand strap-ons in Russia per year. Such is the secret life of Russian men under public cries that the ass is not intended for that.
Re-read anal sex guide. Unlike women who require dancing with tambourines for an orgasm from a black entrance, men have a magic button - the ability to massage the prostate through the rectum. The result is a fountain of pleasure without any touching the penis. The rest of the advice is the same: help relax the sphincters, act slowly and carefully, let the lubricants flow like water, and you need to pay special attention to food, because men often drink much less water and eat noticeably less fiber.
Choose strapon. There are a huge number of them in one of the most popular Russian sex shops even more than clitoris vibrators. Strap-ons are divided into several main categories; choose your set based on your needs. Belt straps are mounted on special harness or underwear pants, and those without belts have an appendix that you hold onto the vagina. The latter are wonderful by internal stimulation, but for holding, developed pelvic floor muscles are required, otherwise the device will simply pop up. They look completely different too.: from realisticists with veins and hypertrophied heads to futuristic devices, look for your partner’s wishes and desires. Perhaps he absolutely did not want to ass thermoplastic scrotum in the process of beating, and maybe vice versa.
Soft silicone and other cyberskin are recommended for beginners: focus on cleaning methods and compatibility with the lubricants available to you at a price, all information is indicated on the package. Hard plastic, glass, ceramics and stainless steel - only for experienced and with the ability to manage, although they are easy to care for. Gel is very porous, you never know if you laundered to the end, forget about them. It is worth starting with an average of 10-15 cm of the working part in length, about 4 cm in diameter. Horse size zataritsya still have time. Vibration is not at all necessary, but it can be very cool. The working part and / or the one closest to you can vibrate. Stimulation of the clitoris during the penetration of a man can be simply excellent and will help to end in the process. But if you essentially maintain control, it is better to turn off the vibration.
Decide on the type of attachmentif you choose a belt strap. Briefs with fastening are convenient if the sizes you do not walk and there is no allergy to latex. Latex panties fit very tight and hold the strapon well. But there are not so many lovers, but the buttocks beneath them sweat, so the belt ones are called like this because they more often stick to the harness of the straps. For tight fixation, the belts should not be pulled, therefore they are so often made of leather. A good strap-on belt is with wide belts, with ordinary buckles, like on trouser belts, and not with tightening or velcro fasteners, and also has a spread of three to five sizes. All this is needed so that you can adjust your harness yourself, as convenient, and this form is kept.
Do not take a belt made of cloth - they are weak and easily fall apart. You can try on a belt right in the store over clothes, its task is to press the flat base of the strap-on onto the pubis, otherwise the toy cannot be controlled. Scratch your wrist about the edges of the belt and see how much its material will be pleasant to your skin and whether it is well processed. Sometimes there are small pins on the belts, sold with the mark “Vac-u-lock” - only strap-ons with the same marking are suitable for them. In other cases, in shorts or on the belt there is a hole or a fixed ring that holds the device. There are more rings, they are of different sizes and designed for strap-ons of different diameters.
Find a comfortable position, especially if you have untrained thighs and buttocks - you will have to move a lot. For beginners, the “spoon” pose is convenient when the woman is in the back. So you can kiss in the process, and the man can sit on the strapon independently, determining a comfortable depth and rhythm. Next position: the man on the edge of the bed lies on his back with knees pressed to his chest, you are standing opposite. So it is well opened, it is convenient for you to move, and the visual contact and an opportunity to talk is saved. Go to the "doggie" when you have already studied each other and figured out the preferences. All the same that we expect from a partner in the usual sex: attention and care.
Do not be limited proper pegging. Any sex is a game, affection and communication. Who wants to meet only to something stuck in you. So, if you go to the bedroom (or where you are brought) with the firm intention to make penetration and nothing more, think about what you are losing. Even if you’ve already put on everything, tease your partner and start to the extent that you begged for penetration. You yourself then deserve a powerful and bright orgasm.
Observe safety rules. when playing female domination. Do not bind with anything that can not be quickly removed. Vinyl tapes that stick only to each other (tie the men's wrists to the ankles in the pose on the back) and not to the skin are best suited. Delete handcuffs - too many stories about lost keys. Do not describe the script in detail, it is better to discuss that each of you is definitely not suitable and can not be used. Dressing up games together with pegging is a great thing, then lie down, embracing, right in these clothes, it brings you together and helps to establish yourself that you are you, regardless of appearance.
Remember about hygiene. Who washes the strap-on? To whom it belongs, he washes: warm water with mild soap and tools for cleaning toys, and devices made of borosilicate glass can even be boiled. If you do not want to clean, just use a condom. If the same strapon is used on different men - condoms are required, and this is not even discussed. At the same time, invite a man to learn how to roll gum on a strap-on mouth, you will immediately learn about him more than in a couple of years of married life.