“Everyone is facing violence”: I work as a dispatcher in a brothel
RUSSIAN SEX WORKERS WITHOUT MAGNIFICATION CAN BE NAME one of the most marginalized social groups. They constantly face violence, often fall into this profession because of intractable financial problems and, moreover, are forced to hide from the state that considers them criminals. The world is trying to solve this problem in two ways: either by legalization or by imposing a punishment on clients of sex workers. The first indulges in the objectification of the female body and does not help to reduce the number of women employed in this industry, the second often forces girls to go underground and, accordingly, untie their hands to customers.
We talked to the author of the telegram channel "I Dispatcher" - a girl who distributes orders in a Moscow brothel, to find out why women go into sex work in the capital and regions, what consequences they face and why this industry is saturated with violence.
Once I accidentally found out that my school girlfriend is a prostitute(hereinafter the author’s vocabulary is preserved. - Ed.). At first, I wanted to like her, but then turned up the opportunity to get a job as a brothel administrator in Novosibirsk. I completely accompanied the girls on orders: I brought them to the threshold, checked how adequate the clients were, and inspected the apartments. Then she moved to Moscow and began working as a dispatcher in one of the large offices that provide sex services. At first, they did not want to take me because of my young age and meager work experience, but after a long conversation with the hostess, I went out on probation. I periodically go out in shifts, when the office has a very large load or I need money. This is a normal practice, because the manager’s salary is made up of the number of orders and there is no stable salary.
Brothels and girls can work in different ways. There are those who work individually and are not bound by any obligations. But there are those who use the services of offices; they rent an apartment, make a form on the site, bind to the client base and still provide security. There are brothels that are right in the apartments - usually five or seven girls live there, and the client comes right there to choose the one you like. But there is a more complicated system: such offices have their own cars, rooms and dispatchers - it is in such a brothel that I work now. Clients will learn about us through advertising, which is placed on the most popular sites with sex services.
We have several offices where there is documentation and there are computers. Senior dispatchers work there and sometimes girls live. The office also has several cars, in which girls and a dispatcher sit in every evening, - there I receive calls, and the driver delivers girls by orders. In my submission, usually three or four cars, and when the client describes the requirements for the girl, I usually choose from those who sit in cars that I control. After talking with a client, I usually send a photo of a girl who might like him, and, if he is satisfied with everything, we take her to the apartment. In the course of work, I report to the senior dispatchers, count the money, and then take them to the office. Drivers pick up girls from customers and take them new.
Sex and Mortgage
Sometimes I interview new girls and dispatchers. In a sense, our office works for the stream, and therefore we employ all more or less conventionally attractive girls. It is very rarely recommended to work on the appearance and only then return. It often happens that a girl changes literally in a month - she learns to go to beauty salons from her colleagues. The price of services is determined by appearance, so that it can grow from five to eight thousand rubles per hour. And the category of ten thousand per hour and above usually includes girls with plastic breasts and fillers in the lips. There are a lot of girls in our office: every time I go to work, I see someone new. By the summer, a big routine begins: someone comes to come to Moscow, earns a vacation and everything in this spirit. Far from sucking everyone: most leave after the first unpleasant situation, who happen regularly, get scared and don't try anymore, but many stay for a long time.
Our girl should work at least three shifts a week and give half of her earnings - this is the average figure in Russia. The mediocre earnings of a prostitute for a month is one hundred thousand rubles, but sometimes it reaches 400-500 thousand rubles. This amount can be obtained either by very “expensive” girls, or by those who are ready to experiment: you can earn a lot on additional services. The standard set includes only vaginal sex and blowjob in a condom - occasionally massage. Everything else is paid extra: ejaculation in the mouth or on the face, fisting, blowjob without a condom, anal sex, cunnilingus, anilingus and everything else. Almost everyone agrees to something from this list, except for the escort women, who already earn a lot.
Usually we have girls from 18 to 35 years old - there is demand for everyone. Everyone goes to prostitution in Moscow: the poor, the rich, the unhappy, and the happy. In this the capital is very different from the regions. When I worked in Novosibirsk, I saw that almost all the girls began to engage in prostitution because of terrible life circumstances: serious illness of a relative, divorce, loss of work. They cried after orders and in front of customers - my heart was literally breaking. In Moscow, there are fewer such: very often girls go into the profession to close a mortgage. And some just love money, cocaine and new fur coats, but this mainly applies to those who are involved in an escort and take seventy thousand rubles per night.
In our office there are students from top universities like Moscow State University and Moscow State Technical University named after Bauman, and office workers with two higher educations - for them this is a part-time job. Many girls have husbands and guys - some of them know about their work, but most of them leave the scandal after they find out. One girl husband eventually killed. To avoid this, girls often ask me to talk on the phone with their husbands and say that they work in some normal place.
Injuries and resuscitation
After the girl meets with the client, I always call to check whether everything is in order, and always allow me to leave if the client is inadequate. Unfortunately, this happens often, and if you work only a month, at least once you will come across aggression. I know only one girl who for two years of work never touched with a finger. But there are cases when you are raped in the first shift and you get into intensive care. Prostitution is an incredibly risky business, and I worry about everyone terribly.
In general, there are more normal customers, but there are those who save money from scholarships to make fun of girls. If a man is inadequate, most often he starts screaming, holding the girl in the apartment by force and forcing her to provide additional services without payment - but this is still the mildest option, sometimes it comes to beating. In these situations, the girl calls me, and I call security. They can go up to the apartment and find out, but, of course, sometimes the guys do not have time to arrive on time. Many dispatchers chase after money and send girls to very drunk customers, but in such situations I advise you to leave immediately. However, if the girl refuses to order, because a polite client seemed to her ugly or unpleasant, she is fined, and after two fines - dismissed.
If several men call one girl, I ask if someone is ready to go, we do not force such things. But it happens that the guy allegedly orders a girl for himself alone, and as a result several more people appear in the apartment - it is clear what happens next. It would be great if the driver and the dispatcher could check the apartment for such things, but this is not provided for in the rules of our office.
It happens that customers offer a lot of money for sex without a condom, because they are allegedly allergic to latex or erection problems. Some girls can foolishly agree - fifty thousand rubles can be offered for such a service - but I advise not to do this under any circumstances. In my experience, men have three reasons for not wearing gum: First, people with serious sexually transmitted diseases often want to infect other people. Secondly, there are those who deliberately do not interrupt sexual intercourse and inseminate the girl without her knowledge. Third, there are indeed men who are allergic to latex, but this is a rare story.
The most common health problem that girls face is nervous breakdowns and drug addiction. But there are also injuries: one girl's anus broke during sex (they had to call an ambulance), another had an ovary burst, and this is not even connected with the rigidity of clients. At first, regular sex can be painful, but after a couple of months, everyone usually gets used to it. Although there are absurd things: girls put on huge heels, even in winter, to attract more customers, and then stretch the bundles or break their legs. Girls are often checked for sexually transmitted infections, and then jokingly checked against each other. But in general, problems of this kind are not more frequent among prostitutes than in ordinary life - everyone understands the risks they take. Although even the most expensive condoms are torn - it is impossible to insure against it.
Students and threesome
We have many regular customers, and, as a rule, they take the same girls. Often these are adult wealthy men who call us as soon as their wives leave. There are young guys, for example, a student fell in love with one of our girls - now she saves her scholarships for her services and invites them to her dormitory. There is one man who loves to use cocaine, - he seems to have gone through all the girls in the office. He is very nice and always leaves a tip, so girls like him.
Very often, prostitutes are ordered by married couples, and it looks sad because the wife, as a rule, does not want this. Sometimes a girl comes into the apartment, sees a very contented man and almost a tear-stained woman who is squeezing out that she and her husband would like to try threesome sex. Yeah, like she decided it! But, of course, there are couples where everything happens by mutual agreement, and then usually the wife chooses a girl.
It happens that girls order prostitutes - these are either lesbians or those who decide to try something new. Often girls are called by men who have recently left their wife; they usually do not have sex, but only drink and complain about life all night. I myself once called a girl to cry and drink with someone. And once a very old man called three girls for the whole night - ordered them to undress and wash his huge apartment. The girls, of course, were delighted that it would not be necessary to engage in sex at this shift at all, besides, he gave them excellent tips and was polite.
Drugs and other work
I have quite a hard job that requires a concentration on numbers and the ability to talk customers. Recently, we have not had a job for almost a month, because competitors bought out all of our advertising on all sites. In the office they use almost everything: it is almost impossible to hold out on such work without doping. Most of the girls are very tired, and they simply cannot calmly go to bed with a stranger - I allow them drugs, knowing full well how difficult it is without this. There are also fundamental “scouts”, but there are few of these, and, as a rule, they have been working for a very long time.
The first time was very difficult, and my boss said that I was not fit because I regret all: I often let the girls off the shift earlier, just because I see how bad and painful they are. When another girl comes from a client who almost raped her, I want to hug her and ask her to drop everything. Men can be terribly cruel, so I always try to dissuade girls from interviews. Before, I often cried at work, and only substances help me to treat everything more easily.
Many girls try to leave prostitution, but they cannot - they simply don’t know how to do anything else. Of course, you can become a seller, but they do not want to work many times more, and get much less. Many people hate themselves for this and continue to work until the age of thirty, until they are asked to leave. Then they have to make up for a long time, live in poverty and fight depression. Although some find well-to-do husbands, these girls quietly give up prostitution, go to work in the office or devote themselves to the family.
In my opinion, prohibiting prostitution is how to deal with windmills, but, obviously, it is worth making it safe. I think it’s necessary to educate people so that they do not think that this is a normal job. Actually being a prostitute is very risky and traumatic. It might be worthwhile to organize state courses for such girls: to teach them languages, some craft specialties — in general, to help find another thing. Many of them simply did not see another life. Recently a girl left us, she passed on the right, now she works as a taxi driver and she is incredibly happy.
I also plan to quit my current job - I would like to learn how to sew or knit, but it is rather difficult to leave. Work as a dispatcher does not require any higher education or employment record book, which is very attractive. I also have a free schedule, I don’t have to get up before 14:00, and I get a lot of money - working as a waitress, I earned a lot less.
