Sergey Blokhin about the fear of a strong woman
One my friend autostop Europe, caught a yellow sports car with a model square macho behind the wheel and, according to unwritten etiquette, started a conversation. Paying for the trip had to listen to a brief course of bodybuilding with all the proteins and amino acids. Trying to turn the conversation in a slightly more interesting direction, the girl asked the opinion of a bodybuilder about female colleagues. His sentence was cruel - "these are not people, these are just some animals." You do not need to be Freud to ascertain: the women who have encroached upon male territory cause a phobia in him.
The bronze virgin with threatening muscles is an example as grotesque as the Great Russian definition of a galloping horse in a burning hut or a Europeanized portrait of a harsh business man (careerists do not like anyone but their superiors). The idea "a strong woman is one that is not inferior to a husband to a rank in his field" is terribly archaic and harmful: not only man's self-esteem suffers from her, but also the female psyche. Strong women often complex, subconsciously perceiving themselves as interventionists, forced to prove their superiority (or at least equality). For example, the terms "forces" - independence, activity, intelligence and success. Who and what threat may it expose? The way men react to the very idea of a "strong woman" speaks much more about themselves.
The first type, which is afraid of panic too zealous partner - bore: phlegmatic, who systematically avoids any conflicts. He is looking for the same girl, and he is prone to actively promoting his own interests and dissent. And in this there is no misgyny. Had he been gay, he would have behaved the same way for exactly the same reasons. In addition, among women, this also occurs: people are concerned about their comfort zone and a strong person is near, regardless of gender - this is sheer stress. But there are still "zadroty", which are generally scared of women.
The very idea of "a strong woman is one that is not inferior to a man in his field" is terribly archaic and harmful.
Oddly enough, a little more chance of survival mother's sonaccustomed to the fact that women know how to steer on their own and quite able to play along with them. The strategic question “who is in charge here” has no practical meaning for him; a woman can wear this crown as much as she can. One could say that this is the optimal man for a strong woman, but the problem is that such men seldom attract them.
It seems to be the exact opposite of the previous type - macho- in fact, a subspecies of a mama's son, who was injured at some stage of development. For example, a mother could overfeed him with cookies and make him a fat laugh, or something else. In any case, since then he needs to have the power and prove to everyone who is in charge here. He matured and now he will feed his beloved mother cookies, and the other strong women will be shunned, because by the very fact of their existence they insult his boyish feelings. Only mom, only hardcore. And girlfriends prettier and easier.
And finally, the ideal option - Ryan Gosling. The advantages of a strong and independent partner are as obvious to him as the male obligation to be overwhelmingly attractive to women. He is aware of his strengths and weaknesses and understands that they are independent of gender. A woman surpassing him in anything is perceived not as a threat, but as a reason to raise her level. Faced with this attitude, a strong woman turns off defensive aggression and also tries to take the best from him. Together they make up an excellent team where everyone feels free and knows who to rely on. They live happily ever after, while the author of the column, who sees himself in a dream by this supergosling, does not discover that he has exceeded a given limit on the number of characters, which means that it is time to draw some sort of conclusion.
The conclusion is, in fact, the following. A man who fears strong women is a man who cannot call himself strong. And girls with an active lifestyle are still worth their weight in gold - and the world would only be more harmonious if you had more of them.
Illustrations: Masha Shishova