"A man is perceived as an appendage": How I attended the preparation courses for childbirth
In the modern world, not only women are engaged in preparing for the birth of a child and its upbringing. Men do not just take part in this process, but share with the wife all the difficulties and joys of parenthood. We decided to find out what exactly you need to be ready for. Together with the brand "AndroDoz," which produces an antioxidant complex to improve the quality of sperm, we asked the future father to attend several birth preparation courses. He recorded his impressions. Alexander Tsygankov, 31, ex-manager of corporate relations at the Charity Shop, his wife’s pregnancy period: Week 31 My appearance did not cause a violent reaction from others. From the hospital staff I only heard: "Why one?", "And what's without mom?" It seems that in such courses a man is perceived as a kind of functional appendage of a woman, and if he came without a spouse, it is not at all clear why he is here. During the two-hour lecture, we were addressed only once: "Future fathers, connect." 1 Breath in labor Clinical Hospital Lapino "Mother and Child" It turned out that during childbirth there is a correct breathing technique that improves the health of mother and child. A great deal of attention is paid to breathing, exercises and behavioral techniques in the bouts. Usually we breathe superficially, but in order to relax the body during labor, the woman in labor must breathe deeply. There is also a relaxing breath (when the exhalation is longer than the inhalation). It is for breaks between contractions. If a man came without a spouse, it is generally not very clear why he was there. There was so much information here that after the seminar chaos formed in my head: I get confused in the stages of childbirth and how and when to breathe. We were given homework - to practice breathing exercises with my wife. During pregnancy, it is important to do it regularly, otherwise during childbirth, you can get confused and forget everything.2Partner's birthAbstetrics and Maternity Academy "Midwife. About" they started, at what time to go to the hospital, what to take with you, what kind of massage you can do to your wife during childbirth (hands, sacrum, whole body) and how to help her at different stages. You will have to spend your wife's personal punching bag in case of acute painWhat to do mu rank at birth partner? Do not panic, analyze the situation and help your wife make decisions. More to take care of the bag with things for childbirth. They recommend putting cosmetic and aroma oils (they will help to survive contractions), a massager, herbs that can be brewed after childbirth, and a thermos. Backpack like a ghost hunter. You'll have to stay and his wife's personal punching bag in case of acute pain: your hand is better suited for this than the handrail of a hospital bed. At the lesson they also said that it is important to prepare not only for childbirth, but also for conception. The course of pregnancy and the health of the child will depend on it. Therefore, at least three months before conception, a man needs to start a healthy lifestyle and take antioxidant complexes.3The first month of a child’s life The Traditional Obstetrics Center Today we discussed how to handle a child: feed, bathe, put to sleep, change diapers, wear. It turned out that walking with a newborn is not at all necessary and the frequency of walking depends more on the parent, there are no rules. I always thought that the child’s priest should be rubbed with soap, because bacteria and microbes accumulate there, but we were told that up to the age of one and a half you should not use soap at all. For me, these were discoveries. It turned out that up to the age of one and a half years, soap could not be used at all. A terrifying doll taught me a lot. How to properly hold a baby (gently supporting the head), how to wear it in a sling (the back of the baby should be rounded, and his nose - always visible to the parent). They also told us about a safe dream: it turns out that a baby cannot be covered with a blanket, because it can get confused in it, and the safest sleeping position is on the back.4One day about childrenClub for future mothers "I will be soon" Talked about how to prescribe a newborn in the apartment, put it on record in the clinic. A bit boring, but useful information. They told about breastfeeding and infant prickly heat. In a schoollike tone, the lecturer demanded that every word be written after her. For example, the scheme of wetting a baby with oil: "Take the baby's handle, lift it, wipe the oil with the folds, put the oiled tampon aside." It was a bit like instruction to the IKEA cabinet. We take the handle of the child, lift it, wipe the crease with oil, put the oiled tampon aside. There were bits and pieces of new and useful information: for example, a short workshop on swaddling a child; how to massage the baby. Rather, these were scattered facts, and not systematized information. Results After the courses I feel more confident, but when all this knowledge has to be applied, the theory can get out of my head. Reality, as always, corrects everything. I used to have a very abstract idea of life after the birth of a child, but now I understand what exactly, when and how to do. My wife says that I should not be an assistant, but a partner: to participate in the life of an infant as the second full-fledged adult. I set myself the goal - to finish this innermost helper up to a partner. Getting ready for pregnancy is like a man! AndroDoz is a balanced antioxidant complex to improve the quality of sperm. It consists of 9 active ingredients necessary for the health of the future father and child. 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