How not to envy someone else's life on instagram?
We all have accumulated a lot of questions to ourselves and the world, with whom there seems to be no time or not to go to a psychologist. But convincing answers are not born when you talk to yourself, or to your friends, or to your parents. We started a new regular section where professional psychotherapist Olga Miloradova will answer pressing questions. By the way, if you have them, send to [email protected].
How to keep from envy of someone else’s life on instagram?
On social networks, it seems that life is much more interesting for everyone. It seems that you understand about yourself that all these are good filters, sorted information and favorable angles, but it is impossible to get rid of the feeling that everyone has better food and more fun and more fun than their holidays. This forms both envy and a sense of inferiority. How to learn not to bite your elbows every time you update your friendliness?
Olga Miloradovapsychotherapist
If earlier people had to be content with little and communicate only with those with whom they managed to maintain real contacts (rare meetings of graduates didn’t change their essence so much), now thanks to social networks you can cover an unimaginable circle, starting from school buddies and ending with acquaintance on an airplane. As a result, it turns out that all former classmates are married with angel-like children, and those who are not, teach Bali surfing or yoga in New York, and you can't go to LinkedIn, because a friend from a neighboring group works successfully in London, and the former boyfriend and in general ... And there is a feeling of deep inferiority, lack of realization, undervaluedness, you start to make brilliant plans to escape at least to the country of the Moomin and live in dreams.
This is where you need to say stop. It’s clear that on the one hand, with our consciousness we understand the falsity of this universal glossy happiness, and on the other, we still fall out of reality and live with envious dreams. The question is, what do we want to achieve? It would seem that everything is logical - happiness. But, firstly, it is impossible to plan everything, and secondly, while we are dreaming about something and living in the future, the present passes by. A phenomenon is known when cancer patients, having learned about their diagnosis, live the last years of their lives with greater intensity. And this is not because they can take a loan or rob a bank and not think about it, but what’s next - on the contrary, they catch every moment and discard all this glossy and unnecessary, something that is only for show to envy of the public. Sometimes suddenly broken marriages, which existed only "in the name of the family," or left alone children, "for whom they sacrificed everything." It is very important to be able to live here and now. It is possible to make elections in favor of greater interest and lower wages, to choose who you love more, and who does not have a better party. Or exactly the opposite, if luxury and comfort are really more meaningful for you, and you have to pretend that you are Mother Teresa. Be a bitch, be angels - just not for show, but with feeling, for yourself. And definitely today.