"Shop for perverts": I work as a manager in the sex shop
After graduating from the Faculty of Humanities I worked for about two years in my specialty. Then she stumbled across on Facebook on the announcement of the recruitment of staff in the sex shop and decided to try. The previous job has already finally gotten me off, and at the interview in the sex shop I honestly admitted that I have no management experience, and I don’t really like people, but they took me anyway. All my relatives treated this normally: the parents asked about the salary, and my friends confined themselves to innocent jostling. The topic of sex has interested me for a long time - I have been reading Tatiana Nikonova’s blog and texts for several years, although I almost never looked at the sex shops before coming to my current job.
Our store is small, so I can independently manage its full software: communicate with customers, take orders over the phone, work with suppliers and transport companies. The employers did not make me cram the range when I arrived: in the process of working and exchanging links to reviews of new toys, you memorize everything automatically. In the sex shop it was no more difficult than in the previous work. I can not say that I am completely satisfied with my earnings, but the more professional you become, the more you get - this is a normal process.
Here it is physically and emotionally difficult: any work with people requires internal resources. But I feel that I am doing an important job, especially when people thank that their sexual or even family life has become better - these moments are worth all the effort.
Mankind has long learned to fly into space, but still does not know how to properly have sex. Working in a sex shop, I see that this is indeed the case and many people live in a system of harmful stereotypes that badly ruin their lives and their partners. Of course, I try not to impose my point of view on customers, because everyone has different views on relationships. But there are obviously unhealthy things, and if I manage to influence people a little bit, this is already good.
Drops in tea
Unfortunately, our most popular product is excitatory drops, which increase blood pressure and increase blood flow to the genitals; in principle, they are similar in action to the famous "Viagra". Men often come to the store and ask them to influence the wives' libido: "My wife does not give me. Give me stimulating drops so that everything will be good." They really think that it is possible to glue together a marriage that has exhausted itself for a long time. They do not suspect that the partner may have health problems or she simply ceased to love. It is difficult for such people to explain that the exciting drops in the evening tea will not fix anything and you need to work on relationships. By the way, women also often buy this category of goods for their partners, not wanting to delve into their problems.
I would like people to more often buy lubricants - this is my personal crusade and the campaign. I try to persuade people to take not a drop, but at least stimulating the excitation of the lubricant. They work locally, and it is not so dangerous to health. In the post-Soviet space, very poor statistics of mortality from cardiovascular diseases. Maybe we will not aggravate it? Well, when one of the clients agrees and then says thank you.
Sometimes people ask why lubrication during anal sex - here you really do not know what to say
Quite often, sex dolls are bought - just like we imagine in the spherical vacuum of the sex shop windows. But lately, men have become interested in masturbators, and that's great. In this sense, youtube helps a lot: the guys look at the reviews and are interested in quality products - however, so far not everyone knows about such toys. Women often buy vaginal stimuli rather than clitoral stimulants - unfortunately, this suggests that most of them do not know how their orgasm works.
People often ask what lubrication is, and I suspend it a little. It is also good if they consider that lubrication is not necessary during vaginal sex - there is a stereotype that if everything is done correctly, natural secretions will be enough. But sometimes people ask why lubrication during anal sex - here you really do not know what to say. Many people believe in the magic of spirits with pheromones - supposedly you will shower with them, and all potential partners will fly at you like flies. Although it is clear that with a neutral body odor is more likely to someone like it.
Vibrators for wives
According to my observations, men come to us more often. Perhaps this is due to the fact that a post-Soviet woman has a lot of other things to do but think about the quality of her sex life. Fortunately, this trend is changing, and women are starting to take care of themselves. Maybe it's in the money. Men often earn more and can afford to spend money in a sex shop. I notice that our visitors still perceive sex toy as a luxury - the thing that you are the last to ruin. In addition, toys are often not the cheapest pleasure. But the people who come to us simply designate their financial ceiling, and we choose a product based on this. Someone will be satisfied with the price of ten thousand rubles, and someone can not spend more than a thousand. Quite often they ask why it is so expensive. Of course, I can tell you: small batches of goods, mark-up for a brand, inability to work directly with a supplier - but nobody usually listens to this. According to my observations, more often people come to us who already have families and children. People from 30 to 50 years old are our main audience.
Men often buy vibrators for wives - but this is what they say, maybe for themselves, just want to avoid the manager’s terrible look. I begin to actively advise and try to help, but here a man brings a classic vibrating member of a large diameter, and ten minutes of my work are down the drain. There are people who are shy and ask to choose everything for them. And there are customers who very much insist on some kind of product. I ask why - they say they watched the review on YouTube.
Men often buy vibrators for wives - but this is what they say, maybe for themselves, they just want to avoid the manager’s gaze
There is a common notion that if you go to a sex shop, it means that something is wrong with you. And reviews of sex toys make you feel comfortable: when a cool dude from the Internet says that this is normal, you stop worrying. I also notice that couples often plan to buy a toy - let's say a girl comes in and says that she has discussed this issue with a partner. It is evident that people are trying to work on relationships, which is great, although the two still rarely go to the sex shop.
My good friend, after I started the channel, said he had completely changed the mind about what was happening in the sex shops. Previously, he thought it was some kind of "pervertal shops". I understand that sex shops can scare someone outside, but when you decide to go inside, you will most likely find a completely human attitude.
Some sex shops seem to be a sucking black hole where anything can happen. I think this image is fueled by pornography and pop movies (although, for example, the authors of "Sex and the City" tried to destroy stereotypes). Most sex shops have a really standard red-black design, which may be repulsive, but so far very few people are willing to even depart from this stereotype.
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