Report from the hot spot: How I was looking for a vaginal orgasm
Point G for the last couple of generations is considered the center of female sexuality. - desirable and semi-mythical, which everyone wants to find without getting out of bed. This is a whole set of double standards: the definition of female sexuality through a phenomenon that can happen only in a third of women, the persistent search for a magic button in a female body to confirm the masculinity of a partner and, of course, the presence of an entire industry to work with an organ whose existence has not been confirmed by science.
It is not surprising that women so often simulate a vaginal orgasm: it is much easier than listening to something wrong with them, or persuading a guy that his wand is still a magic one. Some, however, seriously take up the quest, learn the methods, set goals and persistently go to them. I also went to training on the development of orgasm, experienced two of the proposed techniques on myself and tried to find the holy grail even without knightly help.
The main ideas promoted at the training immediately provoked an understanding: sex without clitoris is the same as without a penis, you want multiple orgasms - think less about the partner in the process, learning fantastic orgasms with a man is impossible without regular thoughtful masturbation in solitude. It turned out to be more difficult with the rest: "PMS is the time to show oneself real" and "Women of about forty years are more susceptible because they are closer to the ground" missed their ears. I was only interested in vaginal orgasm.
Approach one: to the brain through the body
Technique "Reflex Orgasm" is built on the exercise of the same name by Wilhelm Reich, the founder of body-oriented psychotherapy and a sincere supporter of sex education. Reich was not mentioned at the training, the exercise was modified, and maybe this is for the better: the original idea is based on a semi-esoteric delusion. Reich believed that the whole world is saturated with an organ — the energy of life, and the “Reflex of an orgasm” allows her to be released just in the genital area, where it is supposedly blocked if there is no orgasm.
The orgone theory did not meet with the support of the scientific community, but numerous centers of tantra and spiritual practices still parasitize it and chase the orgonic energy from chakra to chakra for those who want it. When Noah cannot find a place to work in the retreat center in the second season of “Lovers”, because there the mantras are chanted, then they release energy with the release of traumatic memories using Reich's method - this is it.
Raykhovsky "Reflex of an orgasm" - a psychotherapeutic exercise lasting an hour - involves the discharge of psychological stress, and the orgasm can happen at the end by itself - you do not touch yourself during the exercise. But you can shout, beat on the floor with your hands and let out any emotions that arise. For proper performance, it is better to find an instructor, working out the “Reflection of Orgasm” is offered by some yoga centers and courses of magnificent mistresses - you choose. The main thing in the process is not to watch the series, but to fully concentrate on what is happening, the instructor helps to focus.
I wrote to a longtime fan that I’m free to go to the night in the evening, I haven’t heard about him since
A modified home workout program - five days in a row to perform an exercise in four parts, it will need a suitable environment (no one should interfere) and a mat (performed lying down). Part one: lie down, stretch your arms along your body, bend your knees, put your feet as close as possible to your buttocks, raise your pelvis so that you can rest only on your feet and shoulder blades, hold for 15 minutes. Part Two: while in the same position, slowly and smoothly raise and lower the pelvis, 15 minutes. Part Three: lying down, bend your legs at the knees, put your heels together and pull up to your buttocks, slowly and as widely as possible spread your knees, 15 minutes. Part Four: lie down for 15 minutes, you are tired. After completing the course, have sex and see what happens, promise an orgasm from penetration.
Did I succeed? It was not possible to find out - I did not find a partner to act exactly within the framework of the proposed technique, and masturbation would have been cheating. I called the former, but on the right day he was busy. I offered to meet nice guys a couple of times at Tinder, but they merged to find out that I didn’t drink (it’s not necessary to believe in yourself). I wrote to a longtime fan that I was free in the evening, going over to the night, and I have not heard about him since. So those who wish will have to check everything on themselves. Free bonus - thighs now look much better.
Approach two: to the body through the brain
The processing of sensations and their interpretation as pleasant occur exclusively in the brain. Naomi Wulf his book "Vagina. A New History of Female Sexuality" begins with the fact that over time it lost the brightness of sexual experiences and went to the doctor, and did not accept the consolation of sympathizers. The problem turned out to be in conductive nerves, and not in imaginary natural extinction closer to climax. But even with physiological disorders, it is possible to train the brain: the female body is a continuous erogenous zone. It does not work with one zone, it will work with another, the main thing is to give the brain the opportunity to detect this place on its own internal map of the body and designate it as a source of pleasure. In other words, the brain must be explained that we are now ending here, and do not allow it to shirk.
A ten-day training program for switching an orgasm from the clitoris to point G (the discovery of a vaginal orgasm was promised on the tenth day) requires time, attention and remarkable patience and perseverance. Training is the simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and the place where point G is supposed to be, although it is enough to stimulate the front wall of the vagina without looping in one zone. It is necessary several times to almost bring yourself to the clitoral orgasm, but allow yourself only at the end of the workout.
On the first day, you complete only the third pre-orgasmic state, on the second and third, the fifth (I have not in vain mentioned patience). The cycle is based on the scheme of three days of training - a day of rest - three days of training - a day of rest - two days of training. Important: it is necessary to use devices that are suitable in size and convenience - the hands will also fit, but they will quickly get tired, moreover, they will not be able to provide uniform stimulation for a long time. The obvious option looks like Magic Motion Flamingo, We-Vibe in any modification, Tokyo Design G & C Vibe, LELO Noa and other similar toys for couples: one end is pressed against the zone of probable finding of point G, the other is easy to control outside.
What's the point? Refusal to orgasm several times in a row allows the brain, ready to defuse, to notice other places that are stimulated at this moment. When he is once again not allowed to explode with an orgasm in the usual way, he will switch to another - accessible. Sensations must be remembered and practiced more often, so that the brain can remember well another zone for discharge. In the same way, it is possible to switch an orgasm from any developed orgasm-generating point to another, less active one. For example, learn to orgasm from nipple stimulation or the posterior, rather than the anterior, wall of the vagina. Sounds like a plan for the New Year holidays.
A woman does not make a larger woman orgasm due to something tucked into her
Did I succeed? Yes! And for the first time it was through the nipples: accidentally hurt - and then an orgasm, felt at the same time in the crotch. The ability of the female body to enjoy is amazing, each of us is a park of fountains of happiness, we just need to understand how to run them. The orgasm from the stimulation of the front wall of the vagina turned out to be a weak likeness of the left hand, felt more like a quick release of tension than something more, but I am sure that the extra classes will make it more interesting. Clitoral orgasm for the first time is also often pleasant, but no more than that, and fantastic experiences with going into trance states come only if you spend enough time with masturbation regularly.
But not all at once: instead of ten days, it took me three weeks. First, as usual you remember someone who successfully walks back and forth and helps speed up the process, it's hard to resist, the orgasm comes by itself, and the training has to start over and over again. Secondly, I somewhere (no, not there) stuck my We-Vibe and organized the process with two other toys, and not one. At the time of the exercises, the dog was expelled from the bedroom, so that it would not come to be interested in what I was doing for so long. In my absence, the offended dog secretly entered the forbidden zone and devoured a couple of toys, including the one used. Of revenge, or silicone is so high quality, I have no idea. In general, I had to take other devices and start all over again with a different type of stimulation.
So don't be discouraged if something goes wrong with you. First, the guaranteed results in a short time sincerely promise only "Shop on the couch." Secondly, it is always possible to fool the body a little: use water-based warming lubricants, are sold even in pharmacies, look at the shelves next to condoms. They cause a rush of blood to the sites of application, increase arousal and increase the chances of success. In order not to throw up mixed signals to the body, apply a lubricant only on that part of the toy with which you process the front wall of the vagina.
And most importantly: it does not matter in what place or places you have an orgasm, it is your body and your sensations, and not a duty to work out other people's ideas about your sexuality. Just enjoy the process, its only purpose is to delight you. A woman does not make a larger woman an orgasm due to something tucked into her. Moreover, the stories about the previous girl, who finished three times a night after a couple of frictions, are easily stopped by one question: "I am happy for her. By the way, why did she not stay with you?" And with you, in any case, everything is in order.
