Warm welcome: The rules of sex in the cold season
Text: Tatyana Nikonova, author of Sam Jones's Diary sex blog
Long autumn, endless winter and flimsy spring still not a reason to refuse sex, although sometimes this is the last thing we want. There are nine rules to follow to enjoy sex life all year round. Even in Russia.
Warm up. In the cold season, we are constantly freezing and trying to get under the covers is not for sex, but to warm up and relax. As a result of hypothermia, we want little: sleep and get rid of the feeling of body clamps that occur when you shrink, trying to keep warm. Women often fearlessly go to the January frosts in short skirts and thin pantyhose, but the constant cooling affects erotic susceptibility. Ski pants, a wind-blown cap pulled down to the eyebrows, and warm shoes are the secret to maintaining sexual desire.
Listen to the grandmother. Scientists from the University of Groningen, the Netherlands found that the woman's warm legs increase the likelihood of an orgasm by 30%. That is, cold feet say not only that you dress not according to the weather, but also protect you from detente, reconciling with the surrounding reality. Thick high socks, which your grandmother knits in industrial quantities, will make much happier and sexually satisfied than delicate stockings from an expensive sex shop. In any case, for the next six months.
Do not lose weight. Despite the socks, reducing sexual desire in women during the cold season is the most common thing. Surveys show that in the cold two thirds of women no longer enjoy sex or feel their interest weaken. One of the reasons - the freezing organism delays sex until better times and reduces the production of testosterone. Testosterone in normal quantities helps maintain sexual desire, but reduced promotes fat deposition. From the point of view of survival in winter, fat is much more important than some kind of sex, since with a sufficient layer the body retains heat better. Accordingly, the already existing fatness allows less cold and at the same time retain the ability to enjoy sex.
WARM YOUR SKIN. In winter, sexual desire can be dulled due to reduced skin sensitivity. Chilled skin reacts less to the caress, and without it you will not wake up the attraction. A pleasant way to return the sensations - use massage tools with a warming effect. Candles are suitable, which, when burned, are melted in massage oil, agents that heat the skin when it is blown, or that are heated by themselves. Massage and other leisurely bodily practices for two and so increase the closeness between people, and here they can also help arousal. Not always, but it happens.
Stand on your own. In men, in the winter things are quite the opposite. In one study, heterosexual men were shown photos of women (face and full-length bikini) every three months. So, from December to February, women in bathing suits seemed to them much more attractive than from June to August. Perhaps, in the summer around and so everything is undressed, and maybe a warmly dressed man is much more responsive. They do not have to run in frost pantyhose! In general, winter can be a test of relationships. If the partner starts to coke because of the smaller amount of sex and does not go on communication, it’s time to wonder what your relationship consists of.
moisturize the skin. Russia is a country of central heating, thanks to which we can sleep in December with an open window (and still manage to suffer loudly on this matter). The reverse side of an inexpensive way not to freeze in the winter is constantly dried air, from which the skin on the face and body dries. Because of this, she just loses sensitivity, as well as in the cold. Put a humidifier (if there is such an opportunity), drink more clean water (this is certainly not a problem), reduce the amount of coffee and tea (you want to warm up, but after them you also run to the toilet much more often), give up the burning hot shower, even if the season seems to be the most suitable for him (hot water also dries very much).
WARM TOYS.Products for adults never get tired and do not shrink from the cold. However, some so accurately convey the ambient temperature that completely discourage the desire to use them. The most disgusting thing is that metal toys behave: they always seem a little colder than air, although it would seem that much colder! Glass is in second place - it feels the same as the temperature of the room in which they are located, but this does not make you happy in winter. Silicone and varnished wood work best of all. They have a low thermal conductivity, so when you take in your hand, there is no feeling of instant cooling. Metal and glass devices can be quickly heated by substituting under a stream of hot water, while silicone and wooden ones can be shoved under the arm shortly before the action begins.
choose warm postures. Heating is heating, but I often do not feel like getting out from under the blanket, especially in the morning. So that sex does not pull you out into the cold, start with poses that retain heat to the maximum. Already in the process of warming up, and the issue of a spacewalk will be removed by itself. Heat is stored in positions with the most extensive skin contact and the ability to cuddle. To do this, you both need to sit or lie down, hugging each other. But facing one another or not is not significant.
Guard yourself. Russia has the highest birth rates from July to October. This means that children are especially active in the winter. It is difficult to say with certainty why it turns out this way: whether it is not enough other entertainment in winter, or romantic sex in socks and flannel pajamas, makes us forget about contraception. Anyway, but it is worth paying attention to the seasonality of the increased conception level if you do not plan to have children in the foreseeable future. Interrupted sexual intercourse, the calculation of the menstrual cycle and "have time to take out" - methods of protection with proven inefficiency. Intrauterine devices and hormonal contraception are much more reliable ways. Do not forget about the simplest option - condoms, if you or your partner are not allergic to latex (but in this case there are polyurethane).
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