11 tips of a psychologist about sex and relationships
Throughout the year we asked the psychotherapist Olga Miloradova how to perceive different life situations, why they arise and how to cope with them. Today we are publishing a series of her tips on the ever-current topic of "relationship with a partner." Hopefully, they will help many to understand their feelings, not to mess up the wood and more mature and calmly experience the difficulties from which no one is immune.
What to do if you find out about partner cheating
This will be learned in different ways. Someone notices changes in behavior, someone intuitively feels that “something is wrong”, others are in the world of illusions to the last, until suddenly someone “sympathetic” tells everything directly. But what if the evidence of treason in your hands and no doubt? Now what to do with this information and how to deal with the relationship?
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Can the proc come out of open relationships
Even on Facebook in the column "Marital status" there is a clause "in an open relationship" - a situation where partners believe that they are together but allow each other to have sex on the side is not uncommon. Is this relationship model viable? How long can she hold out before jealousy and resentment begin? Or, on the contrary, can she solve the problems of loving couples who lack something with each other?
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How to cope with jealousy
We are all jealous. Beloved person - to "just familiar" or even to work, absorbing most of his time. Parents - to brothers and sisters, and even to the neighbor's daughter, which they regularly set an example. Girlfriend - to her cheerful friend. Quarrels on the basis of jealousy can ruin any relationship, but to cope with it is very difficult. Is it necessary to suppress it? Where does the habit of jealousness come from in us and how can we learn to control such emotions?
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How to relax during sex
When it comes to sex, our self-confidence sometimes disappears somewhere: it is impossible to say, to make it even worse, and the thoughts of "how I look" and "whether he likes" cling to my head. In the end, it is very difficult to relax, the pleasure of sex turns out to be blurred or completely absent, and admitting that you are tense also does not come out. Many people prefer to pretend that everything is okay, so as not to get upset once again and not to scare off the partner. How to start to change the situation?
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Why are we attracted to bad guys
The image of a "dangerous" or sometimes even cruel man seems very attractive - it is worth remembering how this summer women all over the world went crazy for the American handsome criminal Jeremy Mix. But why did his bad reputation not scare the fans away, but on the contrary, did it make her even more attractive? Why are we all fascinated by bad guys, all in which screams "expect trouble"?
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Is it possible to change a man
Every girl, at least once in her life, has dreamed of completely erasing certain features from her partner and replacing them with others, external or internal. So that the nose was like that of an eagle and spoke of firmness, so that it was at the same time strong and caring, it peacefully withstood the ICP and stopped loving football. Well, or at least just to stop throwing socks all over the apartment. Can I change a man and do I need to do this?
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Why are we afraid of the new in sex
In the XXI century, we finally came to a consensus that rich sexual experience is not a vice and not dignity, but simply a personal matter. But, speaking of sex, even seemingly liberated and educated people sometimes begin to crease and moo or, on the contrary, use some glaring Russian-language terms. It’s not just a matter of vocabulary - to try something new in sex is even harder for most people than talking about it. Why is this happening and what to do about it?
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How to get out of a relationship where you are bullied
The problem of domestic violence is one of the most painful and acute. It seems to us that he is not around - because, as is believed, in good families or couples, a man will never raise a hand against a woman. The society is used to looking for causes in the victim, and when we ourselves fall into the situation of domestic violence, we are constrained by the feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. What to do if you are hostage to this situation?
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How to understand that the relationship is time to break
Time heals from many problems, but it often turns ideally beautiful feelings into monotonous routine. Up to certain limits, this is normal - it is impossible to constantly maintain a sense of joy and novelty and experience infinite happiness. But how to understand whether your relationship undergo a temporary recession or feelings have cooled forever? How to understand that it is time to end the relationship, if nothing terrible seemed to happen, but something gnawing at you from the inside and causing you to have doubts?
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How to survive parting
Everyone at least once remained heartbroken after a break in relationships. It doesn't matter who initiated it - the heart hurts as if the parting happened for the first time, you want to lie on the bed, look at the ceiling and shut yourself off from public life, like Shia LaBeouf in the hardest times. So what to do if you do not want to do anything, and how to survive the loss of a once-loved person?
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How to stop being jealous of the former
If you have recently experienced a separation, it is quite understandable that when you see a former with a new girlfriend your heart aches painfully. But what if time has passed, the wounds are strained and you seem to be even friends, but as soon as someone appears on its horizon, that unpleasant painful sensation returns again? Why we can not let go of the former for so long and what to do with it?
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