Why woman and alcohol is not a matter of conviction
A modern girl (not only a girl, by the way) has to defend her rights every day and fight stereotypes: it is unusual when she speaks openly about her age, brightly paints herself and knows how to drink. In the context of the upcoming holidays, the latter is especially relevant. We asked the journalist Moore Sobolev to speak out about a sober approach to alcohol (in an ethical sense, and not from a public health perspective).
Moore Sobolev
I love to drink. I was born and raised in a humanitarian environment, where alcohol is part of a natural cultural code (which is characteristic, I almost never saw really drunk people after these dinners with stormy discussions of literary questions). I was free to pour at home as soon as I reached an age that implies a certain interest in alcohol. My youth passed in the courtyard of the main building of the RSUH at Chayanov in the company of port "777" and vodka gorilka - both were rather disgusting, but left in my heart the most tender memories. As a poet in Russia is more than a poet, so is alcohol more than alcohol. Not just a catalyst for a pleasant pastime and drinks of varying degrees of sophistication, but the cause of extinction and the national idea at the same time. Russian man and alcohol are always relations filled with drama, and a special cut of this drama is seen when a man is female.
In the eyes of the traditional society, good girls do not drink and, while the lover uses vodka with friends in the glorified cultural tradition of the "male company", they wait at home with a hot soup and a number of detox, written on paper in the fridge. From the girl does not expect that she will understand wine or brandy: an intellectual approach to alcohol - this is for men. A drinking woman is easy prey, and alcohol is an instrument of seduction: "Treat her with a pair of" Screwdrivers "and offer to go to you." At the same time, a girl with a glass of juice at a party is often perceived as a blinkered blue stocking: why doesn't she drink and dance on the table? Does she have complexes?
The lack of respect for the personal space of a person is the scourge of Russian society, and it manifests itself most vividly in relations with alcohol. "You do not need, you still have to give birth" and "Do you respect me? Then drink!" - these are two facets of the same essence, which for some reason dictates a person how to dispose of his own organism and time. The correct relationship with alcohol implies independence and responsibility - above all, to oneself. Self-control is necessary for every enthusiast of this sphere: the loss of human appearance does not adorn either a man or a woman, but due to anatomical and social features, the issue of security is more relevant for us.
The last degree of the fall - drunk sex with people in whose presence you usually do not even want to take off your jacket
Fun is great, but if you don’t remember the next day what happened, who these people are and where my things are, then something went wrong. The ability to control oneself and the knowledge of one’s own standard comes with age, but it would be good if the period of experiments passed without violation of criminal norms.
As in sex, there can be only one reason to drink or not drink - one’s own conscious desire, correlated with one’s own abilities. "I want" or "I do not want" - these magic words are enough to explain my current preferences. You shouldn’t make excuses for the evening when “you ruined the whole party with your drunken revelations,” just as you shouldn’t feel guilty if you “ruined the whole party with your sober mug”: it means that the shitty parties were once they were so easy to spoil. Arrange your own. With or without alcohol - as much as you want.