Books that will help to become better in the new year
Increase personal effectivenessor, human language, work on ourselves seems to us no less important than the desire to climb to the top of the career ladder and become an ideal parent. Moreover, we are sure that without the first, everything else is meaningless to pump, so we offer a break from the agenda during the holidays and study useful books that often do not have enough time during the year.
"The Passion Trap: How to Right Unbalanced Relationship"
In translation, the book is called "The Paradox of Passion: She Loves Him, and He Doesn't Have It," and you probably already understood why we recommend reading it in the original. However, if time is running out, the Russian version will also come down - however, you will snort because of intonation during the entire lengthless reading. The Passion Trap was published for the first time in 1990, but the relational problems that it deals with are never out of date. Any close relationship - friendly, romantic, family - are asymmetric: one partner often feels more dependent on the other, and the second seems to love less. If, from time to time, a pair of castling of the dominant and subordinate positions takes place in the pair, everything is normal, if not, the same paradox arises, which is difficult to overcome without prompting. Authors Dean Delice and Cassandra Phillips describe this whole mechanism in more detail and explain it on the example of numerous practical cases.
"Carry On, Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed"
Glennon Melton, as she says to herself, is “recovering everything”: in the past, she suffered from a food disorder, affection for alcohol, drugs, erratic relationships, and more than once got into the police. Now Melton is the author of the best-selling book The New York Times, the mother of three children and the one who causes admiration of casual parishioners in the church for their beautiful family and life in general. In the book, Glennon does not give advice to those who still cannot find themselves, as one would expect, but shares his anxiety, weaknesses and fears - just such sincerity makes the reader feel that everything is fine with him too. In fact, if such a public person has the courage to admit that she hates vacuuming, she often thinks that raising children is the hardest work (and not a blessed period, as everyone around them says), and only out of politeness does not chase friends out the end of the party, what's stopping us from being a little less strict about ourselves? With all this, "Carry On, Warrior" - one of the funniest books in the world.
"Journal to the Self: Twenty-Two Paths to Personal Growth"
We all kept or at least tried to keep a diary: children's grievances, experiences because of controls, the first interactions with the opposite sex, and the like settled in carefully guarded notebooks and notebooks. Diary therapy differs from such chaotic entries with a clear structure of writing - it is she who allows not to fix emotional outbursts, but to establish a link between actions and personality traits and track the development of the latter. There are many methods of diary therapy; one of the clear and accessible ones is described in the Journal to the Self. In it, Kathleen Adams, a follower of Ira Progoff's method, introduces the reader to the advantages of a structured diary and gives comprehensive instructions on pumping self-esteem, relationships with people, addiction problems and other difficult questions.
"Depression is canceled. How to return to life without doctors and drugs"
Ok, we all seem to know that depression is a disease that not only affects mood and makes you “sad”, but for not yet fully studied causes affects the population and affects physical health (in particular, people suffering from depression are at risk purchase diabetes mellitus). Nevertheless, not everyone is able to distinguish his sad state from illness, and, it seems, the national conviction “with anyone, not with me” applies primarily to health problems. The psychotherapist Richard O'Connor, himself confronted with depression and, in his words, cured, is sure that there is not enough drug and standard psychotherapy for treatment - along with this he suggests studying the state along and across and following the methods he derived. This book, in our opinion, is useful not only for those who are concerned about their emotional state - people close to depression are also not insured, and we see more responsibility and love for knowing more about the serious threat to their well-being.
"Stream: The Psychology of Optimal Experience"
If we were asked to name a book that helps to become happy, we would choose "The Flow." Mihai Ciksikntmihayi, the author of the concept of flow, believes that it is in the moments of overcoming possible difficulties that we feel best. In other words, we get great pleasure when we are really passionate about our business, and the task of the aspirant to live life is pleasant - to find an occupation that would allow to experience such a state constantly. The funny thing is that they can be anything: an auto mechanic who is constantly competing with himself for speed in his usual tasks can be happier than a seemingly successful banker with an exemplary family and lifestyle. Fortunately, Ciczentmiehyi derived several rules that help to flow into the stream, and by and large we all just need to remember to follow them.
"How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere"
Communication is an integral element of any activity, and difficulties with it can stall progress in the work, not to mention building relationships. Hardly anyone knows how to talk to people, more than TV presenters; Larry King confirms this in his long-time book, How to Talk to Anyone Anytime, Anywhere. At the time of its writing, he worked as a leader for more than thirty years, and during this time he was able not only to gain experience, but also to present it in the simplest and most accessible language. In general, the simplicity of presentation is one of King’s tips, the rest also help to communicate clearly with any audience and feel comfortable even at the interview, even at the funeral. The presenter examines the art of communication not only from his own experience (it would be strange if he did not share what he heard from his eminent interlocutors) and does not get tired of recalling and analyzing symbolic, sometimes historical, incidents.