Personal experience: 15 important stories of the year
The "Personal Experience" rubric has gained special importance this year. both for our editorial board and for readers. People experienced unique stories, and the site invited them to speak out and help others. This year, the heroines and heroes of Wonderzine talked about debilitating diseases, complex relationships, work and emotional experience. We recall the most amazing and discussed issues.
I got rid of violence in a relationship
I became a wife, whose only task was not to piss off my husband and prevent his outbursts of anger. The trick is that this is impossible: if you put the perfect order in the house, you will surely hear that you are a bad mother, and if you are too passionate about the child, they will hint that you have missed your career opportunities.
I investigated the history of sexual harassment
I met personally with all the victims, I talked with each of them for a long time and thoroughly, I had to literally pull out many details and discuss what had happened in a circle many times. I would like to stress once again that all these were completely different people - someone of 1993, someone of 2006, - who didn’t have any reason to unite for the sake of revenge on someone.
I live with post-traumatic syndrome
If you try to describe PTSD in a nutshell, you can say that this is the inability to release the experienced trauma. She seems to be always with you: you are constantly re-immersed in a traumatic situation and relive it.
I work as a model - and I have a lot of questions for this business.
Another big problem is that many people, including within the industry, do not take the work of the model seriously. Many girls come to the modeling business, thinking that this is such a relaxed pastime, and at first they think that everything is cool, and after a couple of years you look - they are all tired and dried up
Anna Starobinets about late abortion
Until I myself was a part of unfavorable statistics, I could not even imagine the unbearable situation of women like me. Punitive gynecology, lack of psychological help, broken fates, divorces, depressions - and a society that pretends that such a problem does not exist
I got into the toxicology department
I was taken to the toxicology department. First of all, they tied the belts to the bed - they say they do it to everyone who cries and asks to go home. Then they began to make droppers. All this time two guys walked along the corridor and very rudely discussed me, in the spirit: "Oh, what tits, I would have you ****"
I was molested by my father
I am fifteen, and we go on vacation with the whole family. Father drinks and asks if I can kiss. Promises to teach. I am disgusted. I don't want to talk to him. At such moments I felt a mixture of fear, misunderstanding, contempt and shame.
I live with depersonalization
The state of depersonalization-derealization changes a person: you see yourself otherwise (depersonalization) and the world around (derealization). As a rule, these two symptoms appear together. I practically do not feel emotions - or rather, it seems to me that I do not feel them, that they "broke down"
Read completely
I entered the school of regents and now I live in Lavra
We have special girls who come here to find a husband. We call them habemschitsy, by initial letters: X - I want, B - to be, M - mother. In the world, they are unable to create a family and have children, and here for this all the conditions
I'm queer
Queer is a utopian project. When I say that I define myself as queer, I mean that I hope for the future, where there are no gender categories, where inequality and violence are no longer oppressive mechanisms
Read completely
I live with endometriosis
The first gynecologist said that I have uterine fibroids, even two - but myoma cannot hurt. The doctor added that for a woman to endure the pain is normal, and advised to drink some weed like the “red brush”. I did not drink herbs, but continued to endure the pain
My mother committed suicide
In the evening, a grandmother came to visit - and already together we found out that mother was not sleeping. Just lies, can not speak and move. In the bin, I found about twenty empty blisters, neatly nested in an empty pill box. She drank everything she was prescribed for these six months
I realized that I was bisexual
I was able to formulate my feelings in the phrase "I am bisexual" at about fourteen years old. It took me another ten years to come to a simple but stunning thought: I have no homosexual and heterosexual "halves", there is only bisexuality. It was a breakthrough
I work as a dispatcher in a brothel.
After the girl meets with the client, I always call to check whether everything is in order, and always allow me to leave if the client is inadequate. Unfortunately, this happens often, and if you work only a month, at least once you will come across aggression. I know only one girl who for two years of work never touched with a finger
I was a HIV dissident and left the treatment
It is as if you are in a fraternity, together with people who know something special that others do not know. All this is presented as a spiritual development. You are encouraged, they say: "You are well done, you are ready to take an important step - to quit therapy." As a result, in December 2012, I decided to quit treatment - and the "associates" congratulated me on a new life.
Cover:Callahan - stock.adobe.com