Tongue, chin, nose: How to make a great cunnilingus
My relationship with cunnilingus did not develop for a long time. It was boring to get oral stimulation myself, and my girls preferred other types of sex. Then I fell in love with Anya, and when we began to discuss our preferences, it turned out that cunnilingus was the only type of genital caresses that Anya was looking for. Of course, I had general ideas about the practice of oral sex, but then I wanted to get down to business thoroughly. I sat down to study materiel and quickly became involved.
Studies say that most women find it easier to reach orgasm if sex involves cunnilingus. Cunnilingus helps to relax, focus on yourself and your feelings - perhaps more subtle and diverse than with vaginal sex or tribadism. Everything can last at least five minutes, at least half an hour. May lead to orgasm, and may be part of the prelude. The main thing is that everyone involved in the process should be pleased.
Although the text is used the conditional term "woman", recommendations can be approached to people regardless of gender, if they have a vulva and vagina.
Where to begin
First of all, it will be great to refresh the structure of the vulva in memory - regardless of whether you make cunnilingus or you make it. And most importantly - to get acquainted with the features of the body of a particular girl (or strengthen acquaintance, if this girl is yourself). All female genitalia look different: the shape of the small lips differs, the distance from the clitoris to the entrance to the vagina, the size of the clitoral hood, and so on. Usually, before sex, I ask my partner for permission to examine her vulva, gently touch and ask questions.
With Anya, we looked at her and me one by one, immediately armed with a mirror so that each could see itself as well. We decided that we were not so often looking at our own crotch to miss the chance to do it once again, also in a pleasant company. In parallel, we discussed what each of us likes when cunnilingus, and what does not fit. I said that "Do not lift the hood of the clitoris!" - my middle name, and I welcome the caresses of perineum (the gap between the anus and the vulva) and anal stimulation. Anya explained that it cannot be penetrated, but she likes a direct impact on the clitoris. And that if I manage to simultaneously stimulate her nipples - it will be generally excellent.
To discuss before sex what the partner wants, what is unacceptable for her, and what is possible with reservations is very important. Anya had a clear list of "cunnilingus" requests, so I actually received an "instruction" from which I could push. I didn’t have any preferences myself: I vaguely imagined what exactly I might like. Therefore, we decided to experiment with me.
Procedure
It is important to pronounce the preferences because each woman has her own erogenous zones, and everyone also likes different stimulation techniques. In addition, wishes may vary over time or from time to time. In many guides on cunnilingus, it is recommended not to get too tired with the techniques and the sequence of actions, but to be guided by intuition and listen to your partner. Nevertheless, the wider your “combat arsenal” is, the easier it will be for you to pick up something that suits a particular woman. Of course, the stimulation technique is endless, and the list below is just an example of how you can interact with your partner's vulva in different ways. Try these options or invent your own.
Despite the widespread stereotype, Cunnilingus is not a “tongue + clit”, but rather a “face + crotch”. It is pleasant to do the entire vulva, perineum and anus - with the help of lips, tongue, nose, chin and even cheeks. The more parts of the face you use for stimulation, the more various sensations your partner will get.
Start oral sex slowly. - then, when the two of you warmed up enough. Unhurried pace will give a woman the opportunity to listen to their feelings, and you - to follow her feedback. The main thing - do not immediately jump at the clitoris. This is a highly sensitive zone (8000 nerve endings!), And getting closer to it is better gradually. Spend the tip of the tongue between the small and large lips - left and right alternately. It is possible to bypass the external contour of the vulva in circular movements - light or more intense. Try different options and ask your partner how she likes more.
The tongue is a storehouse of cunnilingus creativity. You can change the force, speed and area of impact, use all the surfaces of the tongue: upper, lower, side and tip. The tongue can make smooth or sharp movements, it can be twisted and straightened. Before future loads, let the tongue relax and firmly press it against the vulva - so that it covers and "wraps" all the bends. Smoothly draw the "open" language from the bottom up. Repeat. Get feedback from your partner and continue, or change the technique.
As a rule, basic movement in cunnilingus - vertical (bottom to top) and circular. You can also experiment with transverse, diagonal, zigzag. Try postimulirovani language perineum partner (the area between the anus and the vulva) - for some women, this area is very sensitive. Without getting into the anus (in the name of hygiene!), Hold the tongue around the perineum, and if the partner does not mind, at the end of the way, slightly penetrate the tongue into the vagina.
However, you can caress perineum without vaginal penetration. The only thing: if you decide to connect anilingus, then remember that the microflora of the anus vulva will not be pleased. Therefore, either use a latex cloth, or do anilingus separately and rinse your mouth well with an antibacterial agent before returning to the vulva.
Pay attention to small lips. Try to suck them, clasp your lips (those on the face), draw vertical lines with your tongue. Find out: maybe your partner likes soft nibbles? If she agrees, carefully adjust the jaws. In this case it is better not to press than to press.
When passion or tenderness boils, may want to "dive" or "bury" in the partner. Cunnilingus makes it possible to translate these metaphors almost literally: your face, her crotch - and any movements that are comfortable for you both.
Language penetration - A convenient option for "all at once." In this case, the nose stimulates the clitoris, and the lips and tongue - everything else. You can fix the nose on the clitoris, providing constant stimulation, and active actions leave the tongue and lips. In this position it is convenient to penetrate the vagina with the tongue. If folded anatomically, then your chin can also successfully fit into her perineum. And then there will be full bingo.
Direct stimulation of the clitoris not everyone likes. Someone likes her very much and helps her to cum violently (like Anya). Someone does not like at all (like me: "Aaaa, roll away from my clitoris!"). If direct contact with the clitoris is possible and agreed with its owner, try to caress the clitoris through the hood first. Stimulation with tongue, breathtaking movements with lips, sucking, and biting for someone (the main thing, again, to be agreed to by you "from above") - test different things! The following technique is not suitable for everyone, but she has loyal fans. Lips gently push the clitoral hood and suck the head of the clitoris. If everything goes well, you can try to connect an additional stimulation of the head with the tongue. But the circular movements of the tongue around the clitoris do not imply direct contact and like many.
Orgasm and rhythm
Like any sex, cunnilingus does not necessarily lead to orgasm. Do not focus on the orgasm "by all means" and discuss the issue in advance: it is difficult for someone to reach orgasm, someone does not like to do it. At the same time, for many women, cunnilingus is really a reliable way to get relaxation, so if your partner is set up for an orgasm, give her time and help her actions.
Feminine pleasure depends on the rhythm in which you make movements. And if at the start it is better not to hurry, then as the orgasm approaches, it is often important to maintain a steady pace. So if a woman lets you know that an orgasm is approaching - with words, rapid breathing, squeezing the hips, - just focus and continue doing the same thing that you are already doing. Do not stop, do not change the technique.
For those who want to diversify sensations, researchers from the OMGYes project on female sexuality are recommended to try several ways to increase orgasm. For example, together with your partner, choose a movement whose rhythmic repetition brings her maximum pleasure. Create a rhythm and start skipping every second movement. Such a "delaying" can increase orgasm.
Despite the fact that many women prefer rhythm, some, on the contrary, like unpredictable chaotic movements. For some, the pleasure will increase if you slow down the rhythm just before the approach of orgasm. Someone prefers fast pulsating movements at maximum speed. Experiment and look for the one that suits you.
Additional stimulation
Cunnilingus is excellent friends with other stimulation techniques. Your hands are free - and they can also be put into action. Perhaps your partner is not opposed to supplement oral sex with vaginal fingering? If your fingers are given a green light, make sure your hands are clean, your nails are trimmed and sawed. Better yet, use latex gloves or a finger-tight condom. You can devote a separate article to the fingering techniques, but if you want to quickly get a general idea, take a look at the cheerful instruction from Stevie the lesbian-blogger.
Sex toys will also help add vaginal stimulation. Some women like it when during cunnilingus in the vagina works vibrator, tuned in a pleasant rhythm. But, for example, the vibration doesn’t work on me at all, but I like it when a dildo lies peacefully in the vagina, creating a cozy feeling of fullness. Or perhaps your partner will want anal stimulation with a finger or a cork. Finally, with your hands you can caress your hips, buttocks, stomach, stimulate the nipples - how long the limbs and coordination of movements are enough.
Important: it's great that there are people who are capable of multi-strips, but not everyone is able to do that. For example, I myself am not very agile, therefore, to stimulate the nipples at the same time as cunnilingus is a very difficult task for me. Sex is not a surrender of physical culture standards: do what you do, take care of your partner, but consider your comfort too.
Types of poses
Pose for cunnilingus can be divided into three types. The first is poses in which the receiving partner is restricted in movement and that one or the one who stimulates the vulva performs active actions. In these positions, the receiving partner may lie on his back, stretching his legs forward, with his head thrown back, or lie on his stomach, stand in the knee-elbow position, etc.
The second type includes postures that allow the host partner to move freely and to stimulate the vulva on the bulging or not so much part of another person. The only thing to be careful: the active interaction with a stranger can be traumatic. Once I did not control the trajectory of the movement and almost blew the girl's nose with the pubic bone. Finally, various variations of the "69" pose. If you can combine both the host and the active role at the same time, then you know what to do in them.
Take care of physical comfort: since cunnilingus can be a very unhurried exercise, and the body tends to leak, stock up with pillows and sit on them so that you two are comfortable. Remember: the rollers, which were placed in time under the hips of the women lying on their backs, saved a lot of cervical vertebrae from being crushed.
An important question: "What if a language gets tired?" There are two basic solutions: fix the tongue still and move it, moving your head, or simply change the stimulation technique. For example, connect your fingers or saving nose. In any case, do not hesitate to say that you are tired and you need a break.
Psychological comfort
Perhaps you are worried about another person because of the smell of your vulva, the taste of natural lubricant, or the appearance of the genitals. The main thing you need to know: if doctors say that you are healthy, then everything is in order with your body. Vulva are infinitely different, and your partner or partner can really like your natural smell. If you share your concerns, there is a chance to hear many pleasant things. Sometimes I worry if a partner goes down, and I'm not at all "just-out-of-soul." In such cases, I say something like: "Oh, I'm worried that I'm not too clean. Do you want to, I drive away quickly get washed up?" You can also offer to go to the shower together, but most often I hear that everything is in order. Well, in an extreme case: lubricants and latex wipes are flavored.
With pubic hair all the same - discuss a comfortable option for both of you; In any case, if, during cunnilingus, your partner or partner has to pull several hairs from his mouth, there will be no trouble.
When starting a cunnilingus, you should give each other time to get comfortable and relax. You can start with short "sessions", without striving for orgasm - just sort through different ways of stimulation and study each other and your reactions.
Can you do cunnilingus during menstruation? If you have sex only with each other and your tests are in order, then, most likely, you are not in danger of anything other than having to wash off not only the lubricant, but also the blood. If you are not the only ones from each other or have not been tested for a long time, then use a latex napkin for protection.
Discussion and agreement
Before you begin your first cunnilingus (and any other new sexual practice for you), discuss what everyone wants from the future of sex, whether you have any limitations or doubts. If you figure it out "on the shore", the risk of avoiding psychologically and physically unpleasant moments will decrease. Maintaining dialogue is also important during sex, especially if you are just getting to know each other. If cunnilingus is done to you, you can adjust the actions of the active side, and also let you know that you like everything. It is not necessary to build complex syntactic constructions - short words and sounds will also work.
If, on the contrary, you make cunnilingus, be attentive to the words, sounds and body language of the partner, in any incomprehensible situation - ask. It is better to clarify the meaning of one or another ambiguous reaction than to suffer from doubts or to force a shy person to endure. Finally, an open discussion of sex after the fact is often useful: you can mark points that you want to repeat next time.
Absolutely normal, if something that you agreed during sex, then you realize how not suitable for you. Feel free to say this: sometimes it takes time to form an attitude to something. And in the same way, it may come out that the caress that you refused at first will want to be “re-tried”. Our desires for sex can change at least every day - and we have every right to do so. The main thing - remember to respect the principle of consent.
Security
Before and after cunnilingus, be sure to wash your hands and rinse your mouth with an antibacterial agent. Do not forget to regularly take tests for STIs and visit doctors. Prevention during cunnilingus is important just as with any other kind of sex: as the American Sexual Health Association reports, cunnilingus can be transmitted to chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, genital herpes of the first and second types, human papilloma virus and HIV. Therefore, if now you are not the only possible partners from each other or some of you do not have a fresh reference on the analysis, then be sure to use a latex napkin or a cut condom. Do not be afraid that latex napkins "ruin the romance." Many people like the feeling of cunnilingus with napkins. Choose the right lubricant and go ahead!
