"I make men starve": Who are the financial dominatrix and their slaves
Financial domination is undoubtedly the most expensive and one of the most unusual modern fetishes. In Russia you will hardly find him, but in the West thousands of men have long spent money on women who do not offer any services - they only demand more and more money. Dominatrix and her financial slave, as a rule, are not even met in real life, and most of the sessions are held on Skype - and this is their only similarity with online sex or even striptease.
Lovers of this fetish care only about money, not women's bodies, and even sophisticated humiliation. Financial domination is one of the most iconic modern fetishes: it is based on the destruction of the usual notion of gender roles, where a man earns and manages money, and a woman only obeys his will. As a result, sociologists explain this phenomenon wittily, some men are so tired of power and the need to earn that they unconsciously erode both the consumption system and the patriarchal hierarchy - they give all the money to unfamiliar women from the Internet and do not require anything in return.
Money "for nothing"
A few years ago, Mistress Harley quit her job in Silicon Valley, where she supervised the creation of new computer games, and became a webcam model, showing her body in video chats for money. Pretty soon, Harley felt uncomfortable: having felt how much such work was tied up for exploitation, she began to look for other options for home wages. Financial domination turned out to be the most attractive. At that time, she was already popular in BDSM circles, and finding financial slaves was not worth much effort. Now Harley earns up to four thousand dollars a day, without undressing on camera basically, but only verbally humiliating men and demanding more and more money from them. Mistress Harley is a financial dominatrix that empties men's wallets without offering anything in return.
In the West, thousands of men have fallen under the influence of financial dominatrix over the past few years, and there are more and more of them. Search for your "goddess" is in social networks - the most highly paid and influential dominatrix has tens of thousands of followers on twitter and instagram; Many get their own sites, where they indicate the preliminary rates and upload photos. To get under the care of a star of this size is quite difficult, and most importantly - expensive. So most lovers of money to go to nowhere use special sites, where you can find and contact your dominatrix as quickly as possible. The most popular of them - www.findom.com - works like a sex chat in which you can unite in groups by interests, arrange video sessions, and most importantly, transfer money to your “goddesses” with one click, tying a credit card to the site. True, not everyone considers this method worthy. According to the financial slave Massimo from Italy (the name is changed by the request of the hero), such sites are “cheap, chaotic and useless,” and real “goddesses”, he believes, will never sink to streaming sex chats.
In the West, thousands of men have fallen under the influence of financial dominatrix over the past few years, and there are more and more of them.
The "goddesses" are often former and current porn actresses, such as Cherry Thorne, Daisy Ducati and Matress Madeleine. The last man from Australia, who wished to remain anonymous, sent 42,000 dollars at a time and then disappeared forever. In an interview with Vice, she admits that in order for slaves to want to send her money just like that, she had to work on the dominatrix image for a decade.
But it is not necessary to act in porn: thousands of subscribers in social networks will help to earn big money on financial domination. True, in this case you will have to post hundreds of photos and videos in nude or semi-naked form: financial dominatrix is not webcam model, but at the same time constantly reminding subscribers of their conventional sexuality. In general, even this, at first glance, humiliating fetish for men is not complete without the objectification of the female body.
The above mentioned Mistress Harley is one of the most prominent financial dominatrix in the world, with more than twenty two thousand people following on Twitter. “I used to work in the IT field, so I quickly realized that without popularity on the Internet, it’s impossible to make money,” she says. “Perhaps the number of followers does not affect my earnings; some are subscribed to my twitter just like that, but it’s for sure reflects how successful I have become. " Another popular dominatrix, Ciara Lynch, agrees with her. She believes that she was very lucky because she started doing it about ten years ago, when all the major Western media did not write about financial domination: “During this time I managed to make a real Internet brand out of my name. I earn money without doing anything. Besides, slaves are usually not consistent, and activity on social networks is a great way to attract new ones. "
But, apparently, getting the attention of such dominatrix as Harley and Lynch is really a great success. "They are gorgeous, they are world stars, but definitely not for me. In order for you to be noticed by someone like Ciara Lynch, you need to spend a fortune, and even then it will not last long. I usually communicate with goddesses known only on Twitter or on profile sites is a more down-to-earth and affordable option, "says Massimo.
Time is money
Usually Dominatrix receive money through Skype sessions. Mistress Harley and Ciara Lynch never undress during video conversations, and men dare not ask for it. However, in their social networks you can find a lot of erotic photos and videos. "I am a feminist and I do only that, I consider it necessary. During Skype conversations, I try to look seductive, but it’s much more important what I say to men at this moment. I let them know that they are disgusting for a woman like me. And only big transfer to the card will allow them to get at least a little of my attention, "explains Mistress Harley. So, financial domination is a literal monetization of the time, but sometimes, in order to get money, it is not even necessary to enter into a dialogue. “Among my slaves there is one poor student who sends me three dollars every day. But what difference does it make? This money is not enough to communicate with me in messengers,” says Mistress Harley.
In financial dominance, there is a contract system under which a man undertakes to pay a certain amount to the dominatrix weekly. Ciara Lynch's bid is one hundred dollars a week. Sometimes Dominatrix even get money from anonymous people with whom they have never spoken. “Communication with some slaves is limited to what I write:“ Hello, today is Friday! Where is my money? ”,” Mistress Harley says. But unlike many colleagues, she sometimes arranges meetings offline. “A live meeting costs at least $ 1,000. Sometimes I just take the money and leave, and sometimes I go shopping with a slave, where I try to spend the maximum amount of money,” says Harley.
Massimo says that he always spoke with financial dominatrix on Skype: "I know that many guys are content with correspondence and rare photos, but I always wanted closer contact - I wanted to feel their power over myself. I have foot fest, so usually the dominatrix was teased me with my feet - at that moment I completely lost control of myself and sent inadequate amounts. "
Diet "goddess"
"Over the last month I have earned sixty thousand dollars without doing anything," says Ciara Lynch. One of the slaves spent on her more than thirty thousand dollars for a couple of days of correspondence in messengers, and then just disappeared. Seera says that most men leave and come: "It may seem that men tend to find their only dominatrix to give her all the money, but this is not at all. As a rule, they change objects of desire or take big breaks in spending. Financial domination like any fetish, just a fantasy. Many of the guys practice it from time to time, and generally lead a normal sex life. "
But the measure know not all. "Now I have about fifteen or twenty permanent slaves, with whom we correspond a little each day. Once one of them sent me eleven thousand dollars at a time — he sold his car," says Mistress Harley. “If I don’t communicate with slaves in social networks at all,” says Harley, “I get five hundred or six hundred dollars a day, if I correspond and go on Skype actively — three or four thousand dollars.” Some men prefer not to transfer money, but to send expensive gifts. For such cases, financial dominatrix meticulously make up whistles on Amazon.com, including not only underwear, expensive equipment and shoes for a thousand dollars, but also prosaic things from the assortment of a hardware store. “Sometimes it’s just physically hard for me to bring boxes of presents from the delivery point to the car,” complains Sieer Lynch.
But some financial slaves want to go further and completely subordinate their finances to the will of the dominatrix. This allows the dominatrix to plan the expenses of its slave at its discretion — sometimes literally making it starve. Mistress Harley in such cases forces men to go on a diet, allowing them only to pay bills and eat only fast-boiled noodles: "Because of this fetish, many of them get into big debts, mortgage at home - literally remain on the street. But what do I care? We are free to spend money as we see fit. Why should I refuse to make easy money? "
Debts and blackmail
Reddit, indeed, is replete with stories of men who find themselves in a difficult situation because of their hobbies. One junior student tells how he became interested in financial domination and began to spend all the parental money on it, until he got into debt on a credit card and the bank did not call his family: "My neighbors in the hostel did not understand why I scraped pennies to pay for laundry in the laundry room. " There were even groups on the Web to help men overcome their dependence on financial slavery. And one man started a YouTube channel on which he talked about ways to overcome this obsession.
Massimo, who plunged on this Wednesday eight years ago, told us that he had completely lost control of his finances and spent all he earned on the dominatrix. "I tried to quit, but I only had enough for a couple of months, so I decided to find a second job to allow myself to communicate with the goddesses. Now I work literally twelve hours a day, I'm still not rich, but at least I don’t get into debt ". Over the past year, he spent eighteen thousand dollars on financial dominatrix, and once let down two thousand in just one day.
In the past, she worked as a computer security specialist, so she effortlessly accesses data on her slaves' computers.
Another fetish, closely related to financial domination, blackmailing is blackmailing the personal data of a submissive man. The girls who do this are often called the DATA dominatrix. In this case, the "goddess" requires additional money for his silence and constantly blackmails his slave, for example, threatening to send a postcard for Christmas with ragged content and compromising photos or to merge all correspondence on the Web. Some would find it surprising, but some people enjoy it.
At the moment, Mistress Harley, perhaps, the only widely known "tekhdominatriks." In the past, she worked as a computer security specialist, so she effortlessly gains access to the data on the computers of her slaves and can blackmail the information she finds. “Many of them enjoy blackmail, but I always ask to set boundaries. Suppose someone does not want to involve family or, conversely, work - I respect the submissive’s desire,” says Mistress Harley.
"It looks like a hangover"
"There is a stereotype that financial domination is only to the taste of heads of large companies, but this is absolutely not true," Ciara Lynch says that both poor and rich men want to lower their money. And Mistress Harley explains that, despite the fact that sometimes she gets money from popular musicians and high-ranking officials, there are many poor students among her slaves. "The main thing is that all of them are united by the desire to be humiliated, and for these men there is nothing more humiliating than to spend hard-earned money literally to nowhere," explains Harley.
Massimo in financial domination is attracted by the opportunity to see a woman who realizes that she can completely manipulate men because of her appearance: "I am pleased when I think that these women will become happier thanks to my money. I like to see the satisfaction on their faces." Massimo also admits that he loves to lose control of himself, to feel weak and used.
"To give money means to give a woman power - a similar principle of the destruction of the hierarchy is used in BDSM," said Siera Lynch. In her opinion, financial domination is a rather complicated fetish that requires intellectual effort and a developed fantasy: “This is not like sex, but rather an overdose. Many of these men feel something like a hangover in the morning and promise to never communicate with Dominatrix again ".
Canadian sexologist Jessica O'Reilly believes that relationships built on financial domination have existed throughout human history.
To give a woman money, says Massimo, is like giving her all her masculinity, which is based on the need to earn more and more money. This is not about sex, he believes, but about the special magic of relationships, which carries no less than sexual intercourse: "We pay for tickets to islands and beautiful cars. Then why not pay a beautiful woman to entrust her innermost desires to her?"
Canadian sexologist Jessica O'Reilly believes that relationships built on financial domination have existed throughout human history, and the emergence of the Internet only allowed more people to practice it without much effort: "Now you can try relationships in the strangest forms, without even going out from home and people want to take advantage of this opportunity. "
In her opinion, any fetish in principle does not imply sexual practices, and financial subordination is no exception. “Many men feel a lot of pressure because of the need to keep everything under control: money, work, family. And financial domination excites them precisely because of the opportunity to change traditional roles with a woman, let another person decide for them,” says Jessica O ' Reilly She notes that many submissives love to experience emotions that are generally considered negative in society, including losing their money without getting anything in return. “In addition, giving money to a stranger is an obvious taboo, and it’s often pleasant to break the rules,” said the psychologist.
Mistress Harley, in turn, explains everything much more prosaically: "Let's remember rule 34. If something exists, there is already porn about it."
