Three, three - there will be a rabbing: How and what about to rub during sex
During sex, not everyone wants penetration - and sometimes you do not even want to undress. In this case, you can do rabbing - non-penetrating practice, which can give strong feelings with minimal energy consumption. In addition, rabbing helps to improve the quality of other types of sex, to get to know your body better and just save time. We understand how to get the maximum pleasure from stimulating the perineum, even if you are too lazy to take off your pants.
This article describes mainly the experience of rabbing cisgender women with vulva. Nevertheless, we traditionally emphasize that not all women have vulva and not all men with vulva are women. The practices described in the article may also be appropriate for some non-binary and transgender people.
Text: Sasha Kazantseva, leading telegram channel "washed hands"
Rabbing is the rubbing of the genitals about any part of the body of a partner or partner: hip, vulva, penis, arm, chest, nose - everything that you are allowed to fidget with. The main charm of rabbing is that it allows you to stimulate the entire surface of the vulva, and at the same time you yourself regulate the intensity and rhythm of the impact, and you can also “put accents” to increase the stimulation of the most sensitive areas. If we recall that the "susceptibility" of the head of the clitoris and the head of the penis work in a similar way (only the clitoris is more sensitive: 8 thousand nerve endings versus 4 thousand), then Rabbing can be compared to "penis-vaginal sex the other way around." If during penetrating sex the head of the penis is involved, then the head of the clitoris is often out of work - therefore not all women like penetration. Rabbing corrects this injustice, and in certain variations even helps to stimulate all heads involved in sex: the penis and clitoris, two clitoris or two penises.
Why do people rub against each other
For a long time rabbing was my only kind of sex, and now I use it as the most reliable way to finish. Different people are engaged in rabbing for various reasons: someone gets maximum pleasure from him, someone replaces penetrating sex with them during treatment or after pregnancy, for some men and women, rabbing is more comfortable than psychologically or physically penetration. Rabbing in clothes will help out when there are no remedies at hand, and they can be relatively quietly engaged in public places (here, however, be guided by ethics, common sense and do not break the law). Some turn to rabbing to warm up before penetration, someone alternates rabbing with other practitioners in the mood, someone practices rabbing only as the main sex format. Rabbing allows you to focus on your feelings, and also to explore yourself, for example, to understand what effect you have on the vulva. This knowledge is certainly useful for other practices. Finally, an accomplice to your sex is also hardly boring: different types of rabbing suggest genital stimulation for both, but many people like to just watch how the other person enjoys himself. Therefore, if you choose to rub against a partner’s forearm or a separate item, such as a pillow, your partner will get the opportunity to get to know you better.
Where to begin
The most fascinating thing is to select rabbing "settings" that suit your erogenous zones and sexual preferences at the moment. First you need to choose what to rub: someone who likes hard body parts, such as the leg, pubic bone or chin, someone prefers to interact with something soft, like buttocks or a pillow. If the density of the surface satisfies you, you have to find a comfortable position. It may take time to catch a suitable trajectory of movement, the angle of contact and rhythm. You may like a uniform effect on the entire vulva, or you may want to lean forward to increase the pressure on the head of the clitoris, or shift the focus to the perineum. The same with technology and intensity: someone will be approached by a steady, steady wiggle, someone - jerky sharp "landings" by the vulva on the surface. To find yourself in a sea of working opportunities, it was easier, start with circular movements of the hips - this will help you to feel those areas of the vulva, the stimulation of which is most pleasant for you. Experiment with the inclination of your body and that part of your partner’s body you are rubbing about, try to move in different directions and in a different rhythm - this way you will quickly understand what works best for you now. Of course, comfortable "settings" can change in the process of sex, from time to time and just over time. For example, I used to ask partners to bend a leg at the knee when rubbing against the thigh (adjusting the angle with phrases like "Fold up the leg a little, pliz" or "Lower the hip lower") - this allowed me, standing at the knee-elbow, to simultaneously stimulate the clitoris and perineum. Over time, I was imbued with stimulation on an unbent leg: so the main "emphasis" falls on the upper part of the vulva, and the perineum zone can be activated by straining the nearby muscles.
About what to rub and how
You can start with variations of the missionary position. Lie on top so that the thigh of the partner or partner is between your legs, and start rubbing against it - probably, this is the most popular pose for rabbing. Ask your partner to bend a little in the knee - a different position of the hip may give completely different sensations. The top position is well suited for research - you get more freedom of movement, but it’s nice to work from the bottom position too. Another “missionary” option is to lie down on the top again and rub the clitoris against the pubic bone, penis or strapon partner. Similarly, you can stimulate yourself in the pose of "rider." The scissors pose works a little differently: you cross your legs and lie down or sit opposite each other so that the crotch fits to the perineum, and then make any movements you like. The partner’s back’s favorite format is easy to organize in all the positions listed, and you can implement it in the knee-elbow or in the standing posture: they can be stimulated as a pubic bone, a penis or a strapon (the latter can also be clamped in the perineum if you both like it), and about the all-inclusive hip. Finally, the genital rabbing does not need to be mutual: if you rub against an arm, chest, face, or a nearby pillow, the choice of poses is practically unlimited. Some types of rabbing can lead you to orgasm, some - just entertain. Rabbing is a very creative practice, moreover, it is quite free from stereotypes and ideas about “how to” and “how to”, therefore, it can be particularly interesting to explore.
Sex in clothes
Separately, it is worth saying about "dry-humping" - rabbing in clothes: dry-hampitsya can, without removing the panties, pants and tights. The principles of finding the right postures, intensity and rhythm are the same as those of the “naked” rabbing, but it is convenient to practice drive-humping when you are in a hurry (save time on undressing and dressing), you have little personal space (you came to visit relatives ). Besides the fact that sex in clothes can be psychologically enjoyable, clothes also affect physical sensations. Some find it easier to get a dry-humping orgasm if the clothes are thin and the fabric is soft — for example, friction occurs through underwear, pantyhose, or leggings. But in my case, tight trousers reinforce the effect: the seams put pressure on the strategically important zones of the vulva, giving additional stimulation during friction. If you like a direct impact on the head of the clitoris, then it may be that layers of clothing interfere with your sensations. In this case, you can try to "tuck" the fabric of underpants under the labia majora closer to the clitoris - when rubbed, it will directly affect the head. If, on the contrary, your clitoral head does not like the extra tactile sensations, dressing you only at hand.
Sex Toys and Rabbing
It is possible to diversify sensations with the help of toys with vibration - they will be useful both at dry-humping, and at the “bare” rabbing. Hand-free vibrators like We-Vibe, butt plugs and vibro rings are perfectly combined with rabbing. If the amplitude of movement is small and the surface allows, then a small vibrator can be placed under the head of the clitoris. Not all partner parts of the body can endure a full-size vibrating dildo, but if it turned out to be possible (for example, a dildo can be held between the vulva or clamped between the buttocks), it can be pleasant to rub against it.
Bruises, lubricant and STI through panties
Rabbing, especially at first, is fraught with bruises - rhythmic tapping of the pubic bone on the thigh may not be pleasant to everyone. Therefore, do not forget to clarify in the process whether your second side is comfortable, and if your own body is attacked, feel free to say if you don’t like something. Feel free to propose a change of position or switch to another sex practice: “Auch, it seems I will have a bruise now! Let’s better with“ scissors ”or you sit on top of me, how do you want more?” If your genitals are in contact with rabbing, protect yourself the same way as you would with penetrating sex. For a penis or a dildo, use a condom, when in contact with the vulva to the vulva - a latex napkin. The latter method is not the most convenient - you have to hold the napkin with your hand so that it does not move out. Let you motivated by taking care of the health of your couple and the likely appearance of disposable latex pants in the sale. Or use a life hack: put a napkin inside the usual panties. I still have to look after her, but there will be less trouble. Remember that dry-humping in thin clothes does not insure against STIs. Panties, pantyhose, thin pants and everything that lubrication, seminal fluid, or semen can leak through create the risk of disease transmission. Therefore, if you do not have accurate information about your health or the health of your partner, protection for this type of sex is obligatory. In addition, the rules of hygiene when working must prescribe those parts of the body that you plan to rub. Best of all, of course, take a shower completely, then to experiment with a clear conscience and clean everything else. As always, do not forget about the lubricant: it will facilitate gliding, especially on hairy areas of the body such as the legs and thighs, and will also help not to accidentally break the remedy. If you are dry-hamp, be careful with lightning on the way, buttons and other hard details of clothing. It is better to wear underwear made of soft smooth fabric, coarse material can rub sensitive places. If you are afraid to overdo it and rub the corns, add more lubricant to the vulva and re-insert the latex napkin into the panties (unfortunately, just a cut condom this time will not work: it is much smaller than a napkin). If the pants sit on you tightly enough, then the napkin will not move away (or will not do it immediately) - and your vulva will be more whole. Finally, after any dry-hamping, you should change your laundry to a clean one. And, as with any sexual interaction, do not worry if it seems to you that you are doing something “strange” - the main thing is that you and the person next to you should feel good.
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