Loneliness for two: How to live with an iPhone-dependent
Sasha Sheveleva
If Rodin created his "Thinker" these days, he would surely put an iPhone in his hand — a cold metal tile that absorbs people, their attention and time. Wonderzine decided to understand the phenomenon of iPhone addiction and interviewed witnesses and eyewitnesses about how they deal with it.
The growth of the popularity of any technological innovation is always accompanied by the growth of technophobia: first they said that we all lose the will under the rule of television, then - gaming consoles, the Internet, and now it’s time for smartphones. British doctors add information to the roster of addictions (informational dependence based on fear to miss something), London-based Tavistock and Portman NHS clinics open offices for her treatment, and the term “iPhone widow” (iPhone-widow) appears in the English-language press for the name of women , communication with which their husbands exchanged on a smartphone. Scared and scientists. Barbara Fredrikson, a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, claims in a column in the New York Times that communicating with the screen for a long time reduces our ability to tune in to other people, and anthropologist Tanya Luhrmann discovered that the iPhone is becoming part of Stanford students' identity.
We are not interested in theory, but in practice: how to live with a person who wakes up, falls asleep, has breakfast, buried in the iPhone. Install an app for iPhone Austerity Pause? To arrange a Digital Detox-vacation in an eco-hotel without power outlets, in which they demand to turn in their phones when settling, or learn how to scientifically substantiate their discontent? We interviewed victims and witnesses of iPhone addiction to find out how to live with it and what to do.
Arthur EfremovPR & Marketing Communications Aizel.ru
My morning starts with freshly brewed coffee and cigarettes, and the fresh press is replaced with facebook and instagram. If we talk about what can distract me from the phone ... Perhaps a dream, delicious food and its preparation. Movies, music, travel, new impressions - all this is already unthinkable without not sharing it, not commenting online. And is it necessary to fight it? Still, we live in the information age. Wars are informational. I would be distracted by attractive photos thrown off via WhatsApp.
Stella Kalashyanpartner of communication agency Human Element
When I sit in the company of my young man, who is engaged in major events in Moscow and whose phone is breaking, I understand that a number of things simply cannot be canceled, therefore, I treat this with understanding. But it also happens that people in a company just hang out on Instagram or Facebook, then this is not very pleasant. I think this is a question of education. Sitting in the phone in the company is a sign of disrespect, so if there is no question of “asap”, then, of course, it is better to postpone the phone. But if someone is close to his head in his smartphone, well, it means that it is necessary to somehow interest the interlocutor: why be angry or offended at him? So, there it is more interesting to him.
Vadim Muravykhfounder of Richardhampton.com
When traveling with my soulmate, the first question to the waiter in a cafe is radically different: "Beer, please" and "What is the Wi-FI password?" Sometimes evenings with a glass of wine in the sofa-instagram mode are held at our house, at this time the football commentator with Camp Nou will not destroy the idyll. There are always a few cherished phrases that I use to distract her from anything, including social networks: new shoes, new bags, and rest on the sea (there is Wi-Fi in the bar). The only thing that is difficult for me to accept is when she puts gifts from me on instagram: I think this is personal and I don’t like it when they share it with people who are not involved in it.
LILYA MOORE
journalist
I’m never offended if my friends are buried in the phone: probably because I have a kind of attention disorder and I love doing a hundred things at the same time. Although if I really need to divert the attention of my interlocutor from his gadget, I am writing to him at the same time an SMS or a message on facebook like "How are you? I miss you!". It usually works. But abrupt manipulations and harsh conditions "either me or iphone" always have the opposite effect. At least with me. Of course, I will postpone the phone, but next time I would prefer to avoid meeting with such a cruel tyrant. And in general, it seems to me, it is only an egocentric person who can demand complete inclusion and focus on the story of how, say, his usual day passed.
MARINA BORODINAhostess
I work in a restaurant and I can say that mostly girls are sitting on the phone, not young people. Young girls are sitting in "VKontakte". If the guy is sitting in the phone, then he most often plays some game: "Angry Birds", or something like "Slap balloons." Sit silently. Such couples are diverted only to make an order, and then they begin to quarrel with each other: "You buried your phone!" - "No you!" By the way, these people with phones leave very small tips. Older people - after thirty - if they are distracted by the phone, they understand that this is impolite, and they try to share information with each other, to discuss it.
the photo: Francois dourlen