Why pregnancy is not a threat to appearance
The other day the ruthless Internet has turned against 26-year-old Carolyn Berg Eriksen - a fitness blogger and the wife of a player in the Norwegian Premier League - because she looks like this four days after the birth and is proud of it. We certainly recognize the right of everyone to their own opinion, including how to look during pregnancy and after it. Nevertheless, now there are all the possibilities and grounds for ceasing to perceive it as a burden, to be cheerful and to look great on any month. Daria Zakharova, a beauty blogger and a mother of two children, ponders what is needed for this.
text: Daria Zakharova
“They are screaming and screaming! There will be bruises under their eyes, and they won't even have time to brush their teeth,” one of my friends, who reported on her pregnancy, thought about this quite recently in sheer panic. It is now, when her center of the Universe is tightly occupied by a small person, she has enough patience for all the innovations and time to take care of herself. But at first there were a lot of fears and concerns. Lera called me every Tuesday and Thursday with exactly two questions: will she be a good mother and can she also stay beautiful at the same time? I answered that I would definitely become - if only because I was worried in advance - and I would certainly be able to, because there is the main thing - desire.
The desire in general is such a thing that not only will the mountains turn, but also raise from the sofa and put an extra bun in your mouth. The main thing is to understand why. For what it is important for the future mother to continue to like herself, for which it is desirable to stay in shape, for which you should stop listening to other people's advice (doctors, of course, do not count), and many more different "for what". True, I personally have the answer to all one - for myself. That his eyes were burning, to wake up with a smile, so that there were no empty alarms, that the new states of the body were easily tolerated. In general, the period of pregnancy is the last opportunity to be selfish before everything turns upside down, in life priorities will change completely and a previously unknown spectrum of feelings will open.
Feeling the happiest in the world - not a whim, but perhaps one of the main stages to the cherished state of "good mother." Not nervous and always screaming, but tender, loving, attentive, and related to the difficulties in some places almost philosophical.
And you can even start with a simple relationship to your own pregnancy. You need to stop seeing the new status as a disease or a feat - this is just a prolonged vacation with some restrictions, but a vacation in which, as before, you can look great, meet with girlfriends, do your favorite thing, develop, dye your hair, in the end.
By the way, I can't stop wondering why society imposes absolutely wild taboos on some of the actions of the future mother. Why is it harmful to paint nails or cut hair, and not to absorb an incredible amount of mayonnaise salads and cakes? Why does the public not prohibit every day on the couch, overgrown with pounds and edema, and condemns going pregnant to a beautician or to a sports club? Why is it normal to consider a cocoon from a dimensionless sports suit or a completely stupid denim overalls, and buying new dresses and the desire to remain attractive in the position is still perceived as waste or infantile? And in general, why is the state of the victim and the cliché so hard imposed on a pregnant woman that motherhood is difficult?
It is not difficult, everything is just different and new. You learn to live, if not according to the regime, then exactly according to plan, you learn to organize your day in advance. At the same time, there is always time for oneself (far not as much as it was before, but it still remains). You can hold the crumb on the couch or finally enjoy a hot bath, you can compensate for the lack of a night's sleep, or prefer a manicure (most likely, you still have to learn how to do it yourself, because going to the salon is unlikely to happen so often), work from home , write the necessary letters or estimate how you can diversify your next day to get a little out of the routine.
The daily pastime of the newly-made mother is generally an interesting topic. Frankly, it was hard for me to wind circles with a stroller around the area, and places of congestion, excuse me, mothers, sharing with each other, as it seemed to them, sacral knowledge, I always avoided: all the same, with painted nails, the chance to be accepted into the company was zero . Therefore, several times a week I tried to get out with the baby "in people". This made it possible to stay afloat, not get sour from the routine, not degrade and not lose the desire to "live easily."
You learn to live if not according to the regime, then exactly according to plan, you learn to organize your day in advance
Fortunately, more and more mothers are no longer thrown out of society, cute places are opening up with a well-equipped baby-zone. Today, even movie theaters have become baby friendly, offering new mothers special sessions. And with a baby in a wheelchair you can go to an exhibition or to a museum: on working days there will always be a minimum of people. You can walk through the old town or sit in a beautiful park, remember when you were last time at the zoo or went to picturesque places in the countryside. And by the way, family travel with the baby is a very accessible reality.
In general, the main thing is to understand that children are not a burden. They do scream and shout sometimes, but more often they smile, hug, give kisses and a feeling of absolute happiness. They instantly change everything and open up the opportunity to look at the world with completely different eyes. They launch new processes in us, motivate people to new stages of development and do not take anything away. But you can see this only in practice.