In Russia, attitudes toward depression, mental disorders, and other mental features change, but very slowly: many still believe that they should “just be less lazy,” or they remind them that “others have more serious problems.” This situation affects the work: most of the chiefs are much more relaxed about the news of a broken leg than talking about a depressive episode.
"A cat has nine lives, nothing will happen to it," "What you experience is just a dog," everyone who dared to have a pet probably heard these phrases. Often people do not understand that the appearance of a pet is a huge stress that can lead to conflicts, aggravation of anxiety or a severe psychological crisis.
Relationships are not always the way the partners want it, and parting can be the only - and not always easy - way out of the current difficult situation. But no matter how difficult the end of a relationship is, it does not at all mean that this is the “end of everything” - on the contrary, it can help you look at yourself and your life in a new way and become a stimulus to big changes.
Although the borders and visa regimes between countries have not disappeared anywhere, the world has become more open: along with the Internet, there are opportunities to meet and communicate with people from other countries and distant work. The collapse of the USSR also played its role: many of us travel from early childhood, in contrast to the older generations who grew up behind the Iron Curtain, for whom traveling abroad was an impossible dream.
What is "a lot of sexual partners"? It would seem that in 2019 there should be neither quantitative “standards” in sex, nor a conviction for “licentiousness”. Nevertheless, modern women are constantly faced with a call to limit sexual contact and are at risk of being slapped. We talked with girls about how they organize their sex life, why they don’t consider monogamy the only "right" choice and what to do so that people stop condemning others for sex.
In the manifesto to the poetic collection of 1912 "A slap in the face of public taste" Vladimir Mayakovsky and David Burliuk say: "He who will not forget his first love will not recognize the latter." But if you put aside romance, this feeling (sometimes pleasant, sometimes quite the opposite), perhaps, should not be forgotten at least in order to get to know yourself better.
Change of surname after marriage is a tradition established in Russia, but whether or not to comply with it, each woman decides for herself. Someone basically leaves the maiden, not wanting to lose independence, communication with family, fame in a professional environment or just an aesthetically pleasing component of the name. Others perceive changes in documents as a symbolic gesture of unity with her husband, or simply rejoice at the possibility of getting rid of a name that is not pleasant.
We are often told how important it is to maintain a balance between work and personal life and to master the skills of effective time management. But do such tips work for those whose employment greatly exceeds the standard forty hours a week? Тому, кто изо дня в день вынужден совмещать работу и учёбу или оставаться в офисе до поздней ночи, часто бывает трудно найти время и силы для чего-то ещё.
Of course, we understand that ideas about beauty change over time, from epoch to epoch, and the standards of glossy magazines are gradually inferior to the ideas of diversity, but it is still difficult for many to fall in love with their appearance as it is. Some decide on drastic and radical changes. We talked with several women who underwent plastic surgery, about how the idea was born to change everything and whether their attitude to themselves changed after that.
In Russia, as before, many are convinced that it is better to give birth to the first child as soon as possible - and after thirty the woman becomes irreversibly “old-born”. As a result, women of almost any age feel that they give birth at the wrong time, tormenting themselves with a question: is it not early at nineteen, is it too late at thirty-one?
There is no exact statistics on parents with disabilities in Russia - at least because not everyone wants and is ready to register disability officially. Nevertheless, according to Rosstat, by the beginning of 2017, there were about 12,314,000 people with disabilities registered in the country, and more than seven million of them are women and girls.
NOT SO LONG ON THE GUARDIAN PUBLISHED the comics of the French illustrator Emma, who clearly explained why women still do more housework, despite the fact that everyone seemed to agree that responsibilities should be divided equally. In her opinion, the thoughts of men are not so subordinated to cleaning and cooking: they do not make lists, do not plan household chores for a week, and in general rarely show independence in this area.
Inequality in the modern world obviously mutates. New technologies, social policy, public attitudes are changing the very idea of starting opportunities. Yet poverty does not disappear anywhere, as does feeling financially unsuccessful or a “loser”. Relationships between people of different incomes also often remain disrespectful and even discriminatory.
Today, the idea that you need to have a baby as early as possible seems to be a thing of the past. People are increasingly having children at a more mature age, when they are finally ready for this, and this no longer looks like a curiosity. Perhaps the only question that arises in this situation: what to do with the generation gap?
We talk a lot about women who have left Russia. One of the first questions that arises in such cases is about the difference of mentalities. And if we understand something about what to expect from life in Europe or the USA, then what is experienced in Africa, Asia or Latin America is often more difficult to imagine.
A few years ago, incomplete higher education was almost a political gesture, especially if you were interrupted by studies at a prestigious university. The diploma seemed to be an obligatory "program point" for parents and a pass to uninteresting work, where not the abilities, but the "crust" are valued. At some point, zeal returned to fashion, and perseverance ceased to be considered an alibi for "mediocrity."
Petitions have long been a familiar way to fight injustice - you probably have signed more than one in your life. Many are skeptical of them: collecting the required number of signatures does not necessarily mean that the problem will be solved. Those who are more optimistic say that the main thing is public response.
It seems that with the advent of dating applications, we began to look for partners exclusively with their help - and in public places today, perhaps, the heroes of romantic comedies and melodramas. We decided to find out whether today there is no alternative to the conditional tinder, and talked with several heroines about where they find new people.
Most of us expect partners to trust and respect the agreements - but in practice, not everything and not always goes smoothly. Even the strongest, at first glance, couples are not immune from adultery - we have already discussed with heroines what betrayal means to them today, and now we looked at the situation from a different angle and talked to women and a man about how they were in relationships married people.
The ethical nature of pornography still provokes debate among women’s rights advocates. The liberal wing offers to watch only feminist porn, where actresses should be treated well, because the directors are women. More radical activists believe that porn in any case turns out to be sexual violence and leads to unrealistic expectations from women, their bodies and physical abilities.